Prince Charming, hurry up... I am getting restless.
Of all the species of animals in which exist on this planet, we are the only form that enjoys sex (I've actually heard dolphins do as well, but I don't know if I believe that). Well, most of us. We don't only enjoy it, we crave it. It is a need that goes far beyond maintaining the population. This is why sex becomes recreational. We determine a mate, whether it be a day or a lifetime, and desire to share this experience with this other person. How do we determine a mate? What are the laws of attraction, and why do they differ between person to person?
More importantly, what is this "game"? Game. Some people have it, some people don't. My hypothesis is that if a person feels it necessary to play this game with another person, then perhaps this person does not truly care for the other. When a scorned lover stops being a person with feelings, and becomes a toy, then it is plain to see that there is no true interest in the outcome of the relationship between the two. Some say that the game is necessary to increase the attraction, but I guess just not for me. I find it a complete turn off. I feel honesty is the best way to create a lasting, meaningful, and HONEST relationship.
Games are exhausting, and cruel. If a person really likes someone, they should come out and be blunt and tell that person. If something is to come of the two people, then eventually it would because the laws of attraction would make it inevitable. If not, then be honest. Just like we are the only animals that enjoy sex, we are among the only that form attachments and hopes of the future for a mate. It is far more humane to put the curious cat out of its misery than it is to allow it to meow by the door until it is final let out.
And what is it with men? Men wonder why women look at them as simple creatures... Ok, guys who are reading this: Here are the HUGE SECRETS about women that you have all been trying to demystify for thousands upon thousands of years.
Being an asshole is not a turn on, being confident, however, is. The difference is tact and knowing when to say something intelligent and rightfully knowing it is a thought based on reason and logic, and something that needs not to be said. When this aforementioned thought is spoken, it is a matter of language in which determines if you have said it correctly. How would you like to be treated? I understand this is a difficult concept, but it must have been a woman that first created the Golden Rule of treat others the way you would like to be treated, because guys just do not get it.
Example 1: In the beginning..
Exhibit A: Honestly saying, "I just think we have other interests, and I don't feel like a relationship would best for both of us. I feel as though we would both be happier as just friends."
Exhibit B: Don't call, don't pick up your phone, after you have lead him/her on and caused him/her to feel something for you. How do you sleep at night, really?
Does it take a rocket scientist to solve this riddle? Would you rather the glass of Dom Perignon, or toilet water? I'll take the champagne, please. Thank you.
Example 2: "Do these jeans make me look fat?"
Exhibit A: "No, darling, but I have seen jeans on you that are much more flattering."
Exhibit B: "No, sweety, your ass does."
Ok.. Listen up, boys. When a girl is asking you about anything that has to do with her appearance, she is hinting that she is not feeling so happy about herself as a whole. Rarely is it ever that we really care about your fashion advice, it's that you, being the person we care about and want to impress more than anyone, are the only person who could validate the security of knowing you think we are beautiful. Go figure.
Example 3: A compliment.
Exhibit A: "You are gorgeous/beautiful."
Exhibit B: "You're hot."
Exhibit A tells us that you see more than just what meets the eye.. Exhibit B tells us that you ONLY see what meets the eye. Believe it or not, we base judgement of your maturity on how you compliment us in the same manner as the way you degrade us.
FYI: With this said, I don't really care how bitchy I sound, but if one more guy on MySpace sends me a message saying "You're a hottie," or "You're hot" I am deleting my account. There is SO MUCH MORE TO ME than my face. I have a brain, I have opinions, I have something to say. If you want to impress me, ask me about myself or find some tidbit of creativity to conjure up a compliment that doesn't make me feel like a piece of meat in a butchers window.
Why am I ranting and raving tonight? TWO REASONS. I just sat through dinner as the third wheel watching my friend and her boyfriend, as he degraded her.. Over and over again. I couldn't say anything, it's not my relationship or my boyfriend. The last thing I would want is someone on the outside being critical about the person I share my bed and my heart with.
Second, when a man approached me during my dinner tonight to tell me that I had the best table manners that he had ever seen, I was flattered and my interest was immediately piqued by such an insightful observation.. When he followed it by, "...And you're wicked hot, too".. I almost threw my drink in his face I was so insulted. I mumbled thank you, and politely bowed out of the conversation using the ladies room as a grateful excuse.
Prince Charming really needs to hurry it up.. I am getting restless.
