OK in my travels through the dating world, I have learned one VERY important thing about love. Everyone's definition of love, and hence relationship, is completely different. Some people believe that love will simply be perfect, the way it comes to you. That is should just be, and you won't have to work to make it perfect because, hey its love right? Love's perfect. Right? Wrong. Some people believe love should be all romance, and holding hands and spending every free moment together. BAH! Yes that all needs to be there, but you still that apart time to remember who you are and what you contribute to that relationship... You can’t be yourself, or let them be themselves if one of both of you is being smothered by each other. Everyone and everything needs room to breath, to have a slice of life that is just their own. Know why? Because having separate interests is what keeps the spark going. It gives you something to talk about, something to debate, hell even something to occasionally argue about. Which is the key..IT’S THE KEY, communication. People always say that, communication is key, but its not JUST communicating..its HOW you communicate. Its how you tell each other I love you with a look, or a touch, or the smallest of actions. Its how you can walk up to your baby in a crowded room, brush a tender kiss across their cheek and walk away, knowing that that one little gesture lightened their heart. Its them knowing what scares you, not only because you’ve told them, but because they love you, they can feel your fear almost as well as you do yourself. Its them saying I trust you to have your own time, your own life apart from me, because I now you love me and I know you’ll come back to me a better person. Love is trust. Love is honesty. Love is commitment. Love is knowing that there is that one person that wants you for you, in spite of and sometimes because of all your little flaws. Someone once said that you cannot feel how much someone loves you, but you can fell how much you love them, and that’s a direct effect of how they treat you, of what you mean to them. You wouldn’t want to love someone that treats you like dirt, like a doormat, would you? You’d want to love someone that makes you feel special, fell like you’re the only one in their eyes that is perfect. Someone else said that love is not finding that perfect person, but is seeing an imperfect person, perfectly. Which makes so much sense to me. We, as people, as a rule, are NOT perfect, not even close. We all have our flaws. But to one person out there, those flaws are what make you perfect to them. The hard part, my friends, is finding that one person. They could be right next to you, right now. Or they could be halfway across the world..So how DO you find them? DO you bother trying to find them? Or do you just settle for the next best thing? I mean, maybe you have someone that loves you. You may not love them the same way, or as much as they think they love you. So what do you do? Settle? Or keep searching for The One? I really wish I could answer that question for you. I wish I could. It’d be a lot easier huh?
