How to tackle these subjects and discuss them because most times they can all be wrapped into one person. If you are lucky in life you have more than one person that you decribe these things to. I am lucky enough to have some in my life. Now let me say this first and foremost I dont want anyone to become offended if you are not named as one of those that have all three traits. If you dont then oh well we have not known each other long enough or you are just not going to get to that part of me so live with it.
this is something that is very important to me once i start trusting someone it is very important to me. If I tell you that i trust you dont take it as just another word. It is domething that is not given easily but once earned is a big deal to me. But once you have betrayed that trust you are just plain ol fucked the chance of you earnign that trust again is pretty much fucken gone ass proven by 3 ex wives and countless ex friends. I also have to say if I name anyone in these traits it is in no particular order so please dont get pissy like i am putting people at different levels.
Daniel, Amy, Josette, Mark, Mom, Grandma, Dad, Chuck as you can tell you all are on the short list and some are family members but not all of my family. I also must state that these are the people that have my complete and udder trust.
Now caring there are some different levels with in this one, There are once again multiple family members that i care about that i am not going to list cause well i have a big family and no matter how big of fuckups they are in life i will always care some for them as i was raised to have song family values.
Then there is the list of people that are friends that i care about and woudl do about damn near anythign for to help them or be there for them. These are the ones that i care about enough that i would help bury a body and not say a word lol. If you are on this list well hell if you are a friend you should know if you are on this list.
Then there is the third level of caring. This level is still not that one word but the feelings are strong and it is hard to admit and does scare me to put this out here for fear of being hurt again. There are two people that are in my life that are at this level the first is Daniel because thou all the years and all the shit he hasd always been there for me. I can say to me he is closer then most family now he wont hold back and he will tell me to stop whining but he is my best friend has been for a long time and will be for a bunch more. Unless he tries to clock out before me then you can expect to hear me cussing him in the funeral home. And of course i would hope the same from him. Then the second person that is iin my life I have been able to talk about anything without worry that she will look at me different. She also cares enough to accept me as i am or atleast i think. And i can say that i do care to accept her as is no changes needed. I can honestly say that i could reference her also as a best friend. Those that have not been close to me lately probably have no clue who i am talking about so i will spell it out for ya. Mainly cause i dont want her to think i am hiding her from anyone in my life and we have gotten to the point to just admit things. Amy is someone that is on an extremely short list.
once again different levels as i discussed previously as they all do tie in together. I have friends that are just that friends i would be hurt if they passed or were no longer in my life, but honestly i would get over it. Then there are the friends that if i lost part of me woudl be lost as they have been in my life for a long time. Then those are also the friends that i would miss until it was time for me to check out. But i am not going to list my friends and the level that they fall into. If you think you are a part of me then ask i will honestly answer but dont be hurt if it is not want you think i should answer. A few people should know the answer without having to ask but if you have the need just to make sure please feel free.
one last note to be able to achieve all of the listed things above you are very special to me and to be honest all of the ex wives could never achieve all three things at the same time. To be my friend have my total trust in you and to care about you is a very rare and special person. To speak even more in detail to care unconditionally that is the highest way that i know to care about someone. There are only a few 2 are my parents, my 2 kids and 2 of my friends. Like i said a shirt list.