"Love the ones you have and forget the ones you've lost." No truer words have been spoken. We all search for the one person in our lives that completes us. The one person, who when put next to us, makes us feel whole. Some of us find that person early on in life, and some do not find that person at all.
Life is not about finding a utopian existance because no matter how hard we strive for one, the human heart can never be wholey satisfied. We will always strive for something newer, something better becaused we are conditioned to always want more. One of the biggest things a person looks for in life is love. We go through life thinking to ourselves "This is the one. I finally found it." In most circumstances we find ourselves mistaken.
The experiance of heart break is not something we wish to go through. However, many of us find we find ourselves in this situation more than we would have ever wished to be. Some people let their bad experiences with love jade their views on potential relationships. They harbor grudges and biases close to themselves so that no one can get close enough to break their heart again. They become so involved with their past failures that they potentially ruin future chances at love. The more they think about their past ended relationships, the more they harbor the idea that it was their fault. "What did I do wrong?" "Was it my fault again?" These questions of self doubt can drive a person into a lonely and desolate existance where they fanatically pursue the need to be loved by everyone, and sometimes end up pushing more people away than retaining their relationships.
If I had to give someone advice, I would say to move on from past relationship failures. The dwelling over the past is a fruitless attempt at sanity. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes we wish we could take back, but can not. Sometimes we must push past the boundries of our comfort zone to find that happiness which we all yearn for. Once we push past our insecurities we find ourselves able to open up, to love again. When we find we are able to love again, we tend to love ourselves more and that reflects unto others.
So forget the past failures of your relationships. Move on in life and open yourself up to new experiences, new lives and new loves. Because you never know where you will find love. You may find love in a old friend from the past, at your favorite coffee shop, online or maybe even next door. Open yourself, start loving yourself and I guarantee, that at the end of the day you will find you have finally found the one thing you've always wanted, happiness.
