Let me explain a few things, these words are coming from the heart, please read!
Current mood: contemplative
Category: Life
I was in real deep thought last night and this morning and i figured its time i start to be very brutally honest about a few different topics, now what i'm going to say here runs a risk of possibly offending some of you out there....some of you women and some of you guys may not agree with what im sayin and might get pissed BUT sometimes the TRUTH does hurt and offend.......So sit back pop a cold one, light up a blunt/bowl/bong or ciggarette, snort a quick line, pop a couple pills or do whatever you do and take what i say here today to heart.
Yes i am a Nice Guy, i will never contradict that fact, am i a sweetheart? Of course i am! its in my human nature to be compassionate. Am i affectionate?? Yes very much so, i love cuddling and touching! Am i loving?? Extremely.
But heres the thing about nice guys(and some of you women out there should pay very close attention to what im about to say), Yes we do bend over backwards for the woman we love But on the same note we are also HUMAN, yes we get hurt, yes we do take things to heart, yes we are emotional and sensitive, and yes........even sweet and nice loving guys like me have a breaking point and eventually SNAP.
When a nice guy like myself finally snaps, a darkside comes to the surface, one we've tried hard to bury deep. When a nice guy gets to this point he becomes bitter and when he does meet a girl and they do fall in love some how the nice guy will feel it to be quite neccesary to test the woman.
I know its a real dick move but at this point the guy has been hurt and lied to so much he has no choice but to test his beloved, to see how strong that bond of love is and to see if it will break too easily. Has this method succeeded?? As much as it has failed.
Yes we may end up losing a great woman but it proves that the bonds of love were weak and brittle. Better to find out now than 2 years down the road or when your married.
Should women be treated like a princess/queen? Definitely! Do many of them really deserve it??? Hahaha Hell No! Let me explain this in simple terms(im not saying any of you out there arent intelligent enough to understand what im saying if i use big words, im doing it this way so my point gets across crystal clear). I have met many different women in my 26 years of life and my 14 years of dating them, one thing you need to take heed of is what they say regarding their past and their past relationships(this will determine if a girl really is worthy of being treated that well). If its a shy quiet nice girl then chances are you've found a mate for life(especially if you a nice guy). Most of these brand of girls are real beauties, very affectionate,very sweet,quite emotional and become your best friend before your lover. These girls can take quite a bit before they snap but be careful when they do. Girls like this have been waiting for the right guy to treat them like a queen and have on occassion gone for the wrong guy and been hurt. Your best bet with them is to get to them early before a real prick comes along and hurts her emotionally. Girls like this had a real good upbringing and their parents are okay, they may not approve of you at first but given time you'll be in their good graces, especially when they see how well you treat their little girl. Treat her like a princess and her parents will love you forever, hurt their baby girl badly enough and see what happens!
the girls who are on the wild side that like partying in bars and clubs and have had many many one nightstands(im not saying its a bad thing ladies cuz most of us guys do it too) are ones to really be weary of at times. yes its true some of them do decide they want to settle down finally but they usually are scared of committing to one person and go back to the club and the one night stands. Are they great women? Hell yeah alot of them have awesome personalities! Are they wild in bed??? You bet, but a relationship cannot be based on sex, i know its hard to believe but true. Are they cheating whores??? Some are(no offense ladies but this is true), some have done some really fucked up shit to the men their with like......sleeping with his best friend while your HUSBAND is passed out drunk in the same room(Oh yes Carla im talking about you!). These girls do not deserve your affection and are not worth being treated like a fucking queen or your time and aggrivation. The ones that arent? well given time they will see how good you are to them, how well you listen to their problems, how your always their for them and will eventually decide to commit to one guy. Girls like this had a decent upbringing and their parents are very cool and you'll get along with them almost instantly! Especially since their daughter is finally bringing home a guy shes doing more with than just fucking.
Now their are girls out there who have some severe issues like Bi-Polar Disorder, Manic Depression, Slightly Schizo or some other Instability. Should you avoid women like this? Not entirely! Some of these women(nutty as they maybe) actually make a great girlfriend and your affection will be well appreciated and may even help them to open up more and may even help them stablize. On the other hand some are totally fucked in the head and do things like.......taking their boyfriend to a hotel, handcuffing him to the bed, teasing him sexually then leave him handcuffed their and call room service in the morning to free him(Once again Carla im talking about you). These girls you shouldnt even engage in conversation with although their quirkiness may really attract you to them....have better sense to keep that from happening!
Now on the subject of Guys who are ASSHOLES. Guys like this arent always bad....there are many types of assholes out there, i know a few but their Funny assholes. The difference? I'll tell you! A funny Asshole is one that is good natured with a real snap sense of humor, they like making sarcastic remarks that will inevitabley have everyone cracking up, yes sometimes the girl their with gets annoyed with it sometimes but they love them cuz they honestly treat them very well. Abusive Assholes are the ones to avoid ladies, these guys are quick to anger, quick to yell and verbally beat you down and are even quicker to do it physically(especially when liquor and alcohol are involved). Guys like this are actually very handsome and attractive and put up a front of being a nice decent guy so ladies are fooled too easily and never see it coming till their lying on the floor with a busted jaw.
There are some out there who didnt have a good upbringing. They lived in poverty or only had one parent around. I do honestly feel for people like that, i had both parents for most of my life, till the got divorced and my mom remarried but yet i still was brought up correctly. yes i did lose my father this past january and yes he was only 50, but now im 26 and an adult. Do i miss the advice he used to give me when i was down, unsure or lost? yes i miss it very much and my moms doing a great job to fill that gap. Some have grown up with only a father or only a mother, or by their uncles, aunts, grandparents or older brothers and sisters. Do they turn out okay?? sometimes yes sometimes no. I mean grandparents & uncles/aunts are great, but not the same as the ones who concieved you and gave birth to you.
Well i think ive written quite a bit today, i do believe this is one of my longest blogs yet! I really do thank you for stopping by today and reading this blog and i hope you really think about what ive said here today because its all true and i hope some of you will take what ive said to heart and i would really appreciate your feed back on what ive said here.
Thank you very much from the bottom of my heart and have a great day!
Jared M Kinter
