Sometimes life seems to go too fast and get out of hand. That's when you need to put on the brakes and stand there for a moment and think. Just stop and think. In todays life it's hard to stop and take a deep breath and access what's going on and decide what to do. Take charge of what we can change and move on. Some things we can change, others we can't. We need to decide what we can change and change it. What we can't change and let it be and go on. People are the hard one. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. Goes for people too. You can give them all kinds of advice, but it comes down to what they want to do..not you. And it is hard for us old dogs to learn new tricks. You get in the habit of doing things a certain way. Old habits are the hardest ones to break. And lots of the times you have to compromise and bend. You find that out big time in a relationship, wether it be friends or marriage. Talk about it, put it all on the table and come to a middle ground. Sometimes it takes several times at the discussion table, and things get ammended and changed from time to time. That's how we learn and grow. But talk, learn, grow, compromise, bend. It takes more than one person to have a relationship of anykind. But it really starts with you. If you can't be your own friend, love yourself, be true to yourself, forgive yourself, etc..... then how can you do it with others? I know, I am preachin to myself. I am my worst critic. It is hard to take your own advice. I will admit that. Be true to yourself. It makes it easier to look yourself in the eye in the mirror. Plus, you sleep better at nights. Talk, understand, bend, learn, grow, compromise, forgive, and unconditional love.
Light and Love, PD
