I believe everything happens for a reason. You meet people, for a reason. You experience things, for a reason. Be it pain, happiness, contentedness, relaxation, everything happens for a reason. A hard homework assignment... sure it stresses you out, but it helps you realize that you are capable of anything once you put your mind to it. The jackass bully from grade 2... helps you realize that some people are just rude and there's nothing you can do to make everyone like you. Later in life you realize that they just did it to make themselves feel better. Kind of get some weird sense of satisfaction knowing that even though they were jackasses, they needed you in their life.
You don't hear of high school sweethearts much anymore. I think that's because we need to experience the heartaches, the break ups, the bad times with people in order to appreciate what you will have, or currently do have. We need to be with the wrong one in order to know what it feels like so we know when the right one comes along. We need those times to teach us when it is okay to give your heart away, to trust people, and when it's not. But where do we draw the line? We've all been hurt in the past, and we've all hurt others in the past. We all have our fair share of ex's I'm sure. From each one, we had certain lessons that needed to be learned. Be it when to trust and not to trust, when to bend over backwards and when not to, when to let go and when not to, when to accept the fact that you're happy, to learn what it is we want in someone and what we don't want. There is nothing wrong with missing someone from the past. I miss people from the past every day. But I beg of you, don't take for granted the ones who are in your life now. It will only lead to you missing them in the future. Heartache is not an easy thing to heal. It doesn't happen over night. But you have to let yourself heal too. Living in the past too much will prevent you from living now. It will prevent you from appreciating what's in front of you.
I wear my heart on my sleeve and there is no way I would ever change that. Yes I have been hurt by a lot of people in my life, but I also have the amazing friends I do because of that, and I would much rather have a few close friends than a lot of distant friends. I fall hard, love fast, and do anything to make those around me happy.
So I ask of you, take the lessons you need to learn and let go of the past, for you are not seeing what's standing right in front of you.
