Leader or Looser
Ok, so this is a little rant to see what you all think of my warped mind. In my opinion you must be a good follower if you will ever be a good leader. You need to be able to trust that your leader is somebody who will give you sound direction that will help you not harm whatever it is that you do.
In work, friendships and even just walking down the street we show how useful we can be just by the little things that we do.
At work I’m the full time person of four health care aides who take care of my client. My client has Alzheimer’s and his wife has serious OCD and nasty anxiety about everything. This woman is so messed up that she won’t even cook without calling half her family on the phone for advice on what to cook. Lately she gives direction which is the polar opposite to everything I want to do. If I suggest my client should wear black shoes she’ll say white, if I say white she’ll say black. She does this only so she feels somewhat involved in her husbands care, but she fails to realize that she only alienates her staff and confuses her husband. Last week he told her to shut the fuck up and this week she was talking to him like he was a convict. So, the other staff look to me for advice on how to be patient with her, but really I’m as agitated as they are. I’ve never met such a passive aggressive person in my whole life.
Friends are great for leadership because you all work towards making your time together the best. At times there is conflict but oh well that happens. One thing that can be a piss off about friendships occurs when you the leader give another friend advice that ‘takes their fun away’ All of a sudden your advice is taken almost as an enemy trying to hurt them. True friends will take advice that they don’t like and likely ignore it, but will give you the respect of listening to you. Other or newer friends will look at party pooper advice as you trying to fuck them over and they’ll threaten to end the relationship. (So high school) Anyhow, I had a friend texting me quite a bit today and never once asked me how my day was going. This person was just going on about themselves. Although I like to listen and offer advice/friendship when I can it hurts me that I’m a friend if my advice is accepted and an enemy if its not.
Walking down the street is the perfect time to show leadership. You see a person fall, or drop something you do your bit to help out. You don’t ignore it, walk away or try to exploit the screw up of another. Being a good leader means leading by example. Step up! Doing something kind will make you feel better at the end of the day.
Rant over! I nearly left the site today. I’ve kinda gotten myself involved in some bullshit drama and I’m just having an off few days. I still may leave. I guess I’ve fucked up yet again because I forgot the cardinal rule about chat. La La land vs. reality. Oh well!
