dseanhillman's blog: "Irish Leprechaun"

Women are truly a complex specimen...  There is no questioning that, yet still countless men and women try to figure out what their friends and lovers want.  Occassionally they are fortunate enough to figure out the right things or one might be so lucky as to have a friend or lover that thinks along the same line as they do.

While I could never insinuate that I am a perfect guy or that I have all the answers, I believe that I am "cursed" with the Nice Guy label.

I am a nice guy -- it is simply part of my persona and personality and I don't know any other way of being.  If a friend or family member needs my help in any way that I am able to provide it, I will do that.  If I cannot personally help, I will help them possibly find a solution that will aid them through others or other means.  This is who I am, simply stated.

What really appears to perplex me is the "Jekyll & Hyde" mentality that many women have when it comes to men...  These women say they want a "nice guy" -- someone who will treat them like a princess, love them and give all of their heart & soul to them, share a future with them, and more!  They want the Dr. Jekyll HOWEVER these women seem to be drawn to the "assholes" or "bad boys" -- the Mr. Hyde that neglects them, treats them poorly, essentially "takes" what they want from the relationship but doesn't put anything into it, and so forth.

I've been told by many friends and acquaintances that I'm "such a great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you!" or other things like that, yet almost everytime I make an attempt at a relationship -- I end up being left for Mr. Hyde.  I am not being left because I am lacking ambition, drive (in life or in the bedroom), or any other factors that I can readily look at.  It seems to me that almost all my experiences result in "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence" approach -- they've had Jekyll and now they want Hyde, possibly again.

While I have a notable background in acting, pretending to be a Mr. Hyde in real life is not something I can readily do or want to do -- I like the person that I am.  I simply grow weary of so many of my lovers leaving me for Mr. Hyde.

Any true and real suggestions to you FuBarites out there?  

Thank you for reading, 

D