So a friend of mine from Fubar messages me tonight and tells me his ex-girlfriend hacked his Fubar account, got the password and blocked 47 people on his friends list. I was one of them. Hmmmm jealousy perhaps, I presume. Any hot chics (or perceived hot chics that might very well be guys posing as girls- WHAT? never thunk it? lol), are gonna get the boot in cyber-land I suppose was her motive. Jealousy was the motivator. But why?
This is something I have been pondering/discussing/despising as of late with my friend CK. We have become enthralled in discussions about Love, its true meaning overall in general, other peoples perceptions of love and loving another person and how some people confuse jealousy and comfort and the satiation of their insecurities by the existence of someone close to them, for love. Are you kidding me. When did being a psycho crazy revenge bent jealousy ridden c*nt mean you love someone ? Give me a break....
I am not a hugely religious person, but I am very spiritual and I believe in a higher power. I feel that I am beyond the belief of the social norms that are pressed upon us by society as "normal and acceptable". There is a bible verse in Corinthians that defines what love should be.... "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." This just sort of cracks the surface of that whole "Love- you are doing it wrong" kinda theme Im going with here. Jealousy, not good. Insecurity, even worse. Being with someone and throwing your drama on them because you are insecure, jealous, manipulative, conniving, basically evil in a woman suit.... is just plain wrong and bad social skills.
I am a huge advocate for people getting their shit together when it comes to this kind of stuff. If all these things are wrong, and your relationships are in the sh*tter and these qualities about yourself are the reasons why.... why wouldn't you want to fix them to end the cycle of dysfunctional relationships and start having functional relationships with real feelings and emotions that are rooted in confidence and self assured-ness instead of self doubt, lack of self respect and misplaced self esteem in relationships rather than in oneself internally? Pfffffffffft I don't know. And I truly do not believe one person can change the world, cause Id have done it already (tinka tinka tink - nose twitching like in bewitched)
I guess all of this to say that Love, for those who THINK they have a clue and dont really.... is ............ (wait for it)
UNCONDITIONAL! (this is seemingly hard for most people to comprehend. And ask yourself... do you put conditions on your feelings for your significant other? Do they do this to you?)
So something I have read goes something like this: To experience love as based upon rigid conditions is destructive to our well being (amen). To put such stringent conditions on "loving" someone is just not loving at all. Its Control, manipulation, obsession, and possession. These words, as far as I know, and per Merriam-Webster are not SYNONYMOUS on any level, with LOVE.
Additional ramblings that have significance towards the subject matter:
- People can feel deeply secure in love that has no restrictions or conditions.
- People do not own each other in any manner.
- Believing that you can own another person will cause you great suffering. Believing that you have the right to do so will lead to a constant state of fear. Know that you are whole. Everybody says this, but if you have never lived alone, consider doing so for one cycle of the planet around the sun. See what you learn in each season. If you an not live with yourself then you're in constant state of dependence, which leads to resentment (which this doesnt exactly have to pertain to you as much as it probly pertains to whom you are with). The ownership that arises from the monogamous mind-set leads to both subtle and overt violence. It also creates completely needless deception (hint hint). Love is expansive. It is also natural to become intimate with those we love who are not physically repulsive to us. Look out everyone! You cant hold back the floodgates much longer. We are becoming to sensitive and psychic to lie to each other any longer. Our souls crave truth too greatly to pretend that we are only attracted to one person. The soul mate myth puts the lives of so many in limbo only to await for an illusion that never comes. If ones feels it is present, it is only a temporary high that after months or years of micromanagement becomes painfully disillusioning. (from writings by Mystic Life)
- Sex is communication. In the heavenly state of sexual communication, we feel what our lover wants and give it without conditions. Back and forth our loving exchange continues free of self consciousness or shame, each touch caressing away the pain of the past, and increasing the high vibrational state of vulnerability, defenselessness and transparency. (from the writings of Mystic Life)
I guess this is a bit deep for most; so I will cut this off here. I hope that some might find it enlightening and take it into consideration when doing retrospection on current past and future relations with people. What they have been, what the current state is and how it can truly be better. Settling is really not being true to self and that's a travesty.
*kttn*
