So I was a bitch to my sis-in-law but for good cause. Hell, you don't know the family! I was only trying to protect her in the end. K, here's the story...
I knew, hell, we all knew she liked this guy she met on-line. No one had ever seen her so... sooo... changed. That's it! She had started changing. Don't get me wrong or anything, it was a good change, a positive change. That wasn't the problem.
K, so, she's never been the social type. Always quiet. Can't say shy. Just introverted. Now the family... you have to understand the family. Well, more the way they are with her. She is treated differently. It's hard to explain. She is over-protected. No one is allowed to go near her. She is off limits. I mean it is really hard to explain. Simply put, men are warned to stay away from her. No one is good enough.
So she meets this man on here and after several months we could see a change in her. I mean she's laughing and talking more. She's more open. After a year, we could see changes in her that surpass anything we imagined. She started talking about this man all the time by first name only. Well, we talk on-line even though we only lived 2 blocks from each other. I knew the family was upset and were warning her. I took parts of our conversation and changed it. I found his email and sent him the changed version. She found out and was more than a little upset with me.
I have to admit that I felt bad about it. If you saw the wounded look on her face, you would understand.
Now... well, now I see her changing again. She's going back into herself and works herself to near dropping. She doesn't talk about him anymore, at least not as much. It's rare. I asked her about it and she sounded just as wounded as she looks. She says that we (the family) are right, he's a "no" and that deep down she knew but tried so hard to convince herself that it may actually work.
I guess the hardest thing to see is how she had come alive, so full of life. If you knew her and I mean really knew her, you would know just how much she changed. And now, to see her wither; die; withdraw into herself again. That life that glowed from her is fading so fast it's hard to deal with. I feel bad for my part in making him back off.
I hope she reads this.