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 Sexual Fantasies and Roleplaying: Spicing things up or a Warning sign? Current mood:adventurous

Every couple is unique in bed.They each bring their own ideas, values and erotic fantasies and personal previous experiences and habits to the sheets with them. How much do we really know about our partner's sexual desires? How much do they know about ours? In my first marriage, after about 10 yrs, my then husband wanted to bring pot and porn into our sexual routine. I balked! We were very involved in the church and youth missions and incorporating those things went against my values. I resented porn for the cheapening of romantic intimacy. It was to me just a F**k fest, void of anything that built something beautiful between 2 partners....Im not saying that a good ole fashioned throw down hot pig squealing good time isnt nice from time to time...but lust to me should never replace love. But it brought up an interesting question in my mind. Was our sexual life in a rut? Should we indulge our own and our partners sexual fantasies? Is it a safe thing to do, or a relationship killer...? Could I watch my partner have sex with another woman, or vice versa or with another man? I do not think so... It's like orgies...Ive always felt like how then can ONE woman be everything you need sexually when and if your partner has had experiences that involved wife swapping, swingers, or hookers..How can the ego compete? How could I ever meet that excitement quality? Is it me he sees when the eyes are closed? You see what I mean? No Matter how open minded I may strive to be, there is still a small voice inside that speaks that some things shouldnt be entertained. No matter how some things are dressed up and presented, I think you have to be careful. Monogamy should not be treaded on. So do the dressups, meet like casual strangers picking each other up somewhere, entertain new positions, new locations, make it a game of sensual foreplay...incorporate enhancements wherever appropriate and be spontaneous! But be open and honest to your partner and to yourself. Make your sexual relationship the best that it can be, for him and for her!

~Keep Living Keep Lauging and Keep Loving Faithfully~