Independence & children….
Ok, had teacher conference yesterday.
Overall my child is doing well…. However…..
Evidently she has an issue with how I walk my child to her locker in the morning & wait in line with her outside.
Teacher says I need to give more trust & independence.
Other parents don’t wait in line with their kids or walk them to their lockers, so evidently I am not suppose to either.
I am taking advantage of the situation while I can. I know one day, & its coming soon, where my kid is going to tell me not to do these things anymore. We have already talked about very important independent situations that will be happening in the near future.
Its not something that we can change overnight. It takes time & we already have a plan.
I already trust my child with some very independence.
I am not saying the parents that don’t what I do are wrong for them & I am not saying that what I am doing is right for them.
From the time I was about 8 I was riding the city bus over a mile to school & then I would walk home afterschool. When I was my childs age I was walking half a mile to my school bus stop & would ride a bus an hour to school & an hour back to school. The pattern continues when I was in middle school with the city bus & in high school with the school bus.
All the time leaving on my own & going home to be alone several hours before any one came home. I became fiercely independent & have no problem with being alone, in fact I prefer it.
If it wasn’t for my child I would be alone & it wouldn’t bother me. Helping my child be social & independent at the same time is not easy, but I want her to know that someone is there for her, someone she can count on.
She was, more or less, abandoned by her real father when she was 4 & hasn’t seen her papa in over 2 years. That is why I do what I do, I do not want her to feel abandoned & that she can only count on herself, that she can count on others too.
Independence is cool & all, but having someone around is also cool. I am just trying to raise the best kid that I know how to.
If that is wrong…. Then its wrong… but no teacher is going to tell me that I am raising my child wrong, because they are not in my situation & this is the first teacher in 5 years that has had a problem with this…..
Those of you that know my child, know what a social, productive, caring person she is & she didn’t get that way on her own….. She had a little help from me…
