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Ten Ways to Worry Less and Accomplish More By Author Unknown 1. Don't think of problems as difficulties. Think of them as opportunities for action. 2. After you've done your best to deal with a situation, avoid speculating about the outcome. Forget it and go onto the next thing. 3. Keep busy. Keep the 24 hours of your day filled with these three ingredients: work, recreation, and sleep. Don't allow yourself time for abstract thinking. 4. Don't concern yourself with things you can't do anything about. Armchair generals don't win battles, but they do have nervous breakdowns. 5. For the time being anyway, eliminate daydreaming completely. Stop building air castles. 6. Don't procrastinate. Putting off an unpleasant task until tomorrow simply gives you more time for your imagination to make a mountain out a possible molehill. More time for anxiety to sap your self-confidence. Do it now, brother, do it now. 7. Don't pour woes and anxieties to other people. You don't want their sympathy - it'll merely make it easy for you to feel sorrier for yourself. 8. Get up as soon as you wake up. If you lie in bed, you may use up as much nervous energy living your day in advance as you would in actual accomplishment of the day's work. 9. Try to arrange your schedule so that you will not have to hurry. Hurry, a blood brother to worry, helps shatter poise and self-confidence, and contributes to fear and anxiety. 10. If a project seems too big, break it up into simple steps of action. Then negotiate those steps-link rungs in a ladder...one at a time. And don't allow yourself to think about the difficulties of step number two until you've executed step number one. What were you worried about this time last year? Can't remember? (THANKS LEGAL HUSTLA)

On My Grown Woman

Goin into the '07 I figured I try to do some things different. Not that I'm not happy with myself,trust I have no regrets, I just realized that looking back on some situations there were some things that I could have handled in a different manner, but like my mom says and the infamous quote goes "You live and you learn". The end of 05 and beginning of 06 were some good times...I mean college life was great. Yeah classes got the best of me resulting in me taking a semester off, but it was still great. Living on campus isn't as bad as some make it out to be, but I guess if you know your roomate it's cool, but its even better if they leave second semester and you end up with the room to yourself. But aside from that I made some friends, made some memories, and had some wonderful times. The bf situation had its highs and its low but thankfully the good outweighed the bad majority of the time(I still love my boo. And doubt if I'll find another like him). Anyways, things didn't get rocky until it was time to move back to Bluefield to stay. Me being the physical person that I am couldn't stand the whole long distance relationship situation so we ended that peacefully so that we could both do our own things...We still talk and still got love for one another but its just separated by five and a half hours. Then I get back here and realize once again why I try not to get involved with the niggas here...Most of them ain't about nothin. The other majority have kids, and the rest are hoes and they've already been with at least 2 of your friends so that makes for good conversation with your girls lol... At one point in time I made up my own rules of dating and my number one rule was: never date a baby daddy regardless of his situation with his B.M. reason being that no matter how happy and in love you and him maybe she will always be in the picture, and whose to say that they won't get back together for the baby's sake. But since I've been here of course that rule went out the window making me vulnerable to the stress and heartache that I have avoided all this time. I said hey you'll never know if you don't give it a try and I tried and of course I started feelin dude and low and behold its been about 2 weeks since we've spoken. I don't know whats goin on so for now its whateva...Brush it of and keep steppin. Anyways, my main objective for the big 07 is to maintain my focus...Think like a nigga to avoid gettin hurt like a bitch...Make school my number one priority cause while most people are sitting around thinking about how they're gonna get out, I'm already workin on my plan...Stay two steps ahead of everybody so that I can help those who desire help and laugh at those who doubt me and my goals. Lastl, just live laugh and love...Enjoy each day that I'm blessed with love my friends and family and the whole love and relationship thing...I'll let all that find me...

F*CK IT

This is my four-letter word poem. You know the one That gets you hits. And it goes something like this: FUCK IT! Want to be it? Don't know how to do it? Just tell it Like it is. Only you can do it. If it's from the heart, It's a start. If they don't like it, Hey, no sweat, Never mind. FUCK IT! Life's too short to waste time on idiots. Bigots Who criticize all the time. Anal retentive! Everything's relative. Profanity, Vulgarity, Telling, spelling, Subject, reject, Hey lighten up, baby! This is poetry! It's free, Meant to be, Not to please. So tell them, Like me: FUCK IT! You're in love. Happens to the best of us. When it works, It's bliss. If not, It hurts. Can't miss. And worse, It's really hard To say FUCK IT! Life seems vain. You're in pain. Want to open veins. Get run over by a train. Blow your brains. Don't think I don't know it. I get it. I've been there before. Sometimes life's a bitch. This is how I got out of it. I told myself 'They won't get me, FUCK IT! ' Chances are, If your reading this, You got curious And couldn't resist. A word has only the power you give it. So don't hate me for using it. Blame yourselves if you fell for it. Then again, FUCK IT! You don't like me personally? Maybe? That's it isn't it? Well That's too bad, baby. Because you know That with a shrug I'll have the excuse I need To repeat myself, One more time, You guessed it: FUCK IT!

Woman Like Me

[VERSE 1:] Do you think You could fall for a woman like me 'Cause I find it hard to trust I need too much And I really don't believe in love, no no Do you think That I could be the girl of your dreams Sometimes I don't let things go Get emotional And sometimes I'm just out of control [CHORUS:] You need to stop for a minute Before you get too, deep up in it (Too deep) 'Cause everything ain't what it seems It's hard loving a woman A woman like me (Woman like me) You need to think about it Before you get hooked on the venom And can't live without it (No no) Can't believe everything you see It's hard loving a woman A woman like me [VERSE 2:] Do you think That I could be the one that you seek 'Cause baby I'm one step ahead You're two steps behind But baby I don't mind Do you think That I can make you real happy baby Just don't get me wrong My loving is so strong But I ain't tryna lead you on [CHORUS:] You need to stop for a minute (No no) Before you get too, deep up in it (No no) 'Cause everything ain't what it seems (Seems) It's hard loving a woman A woman like me (Woman like me) You need to think about it Before you get hooked on the venom And can't live without it (Without it) Can't believe everything you see It's hard loving a woman A woman like me Woman like me Woman like me Woman like me Oh [CHORUS:] You need to stop for a minute (Stop for a minute) Before you get too, deep up in it (Before you get too deep up in it) 'Cause everything ain't what it seems It's hard loving a woman A woman like me You need to think about it (Think about it, baby) Before you get hooked on the venom And can't live without it (No, no) Can't believe everything you see It's hard loving a woman A woman like me Woman like me Woman like me Woman like me

My "Vital Survival Trait"

For some reason I can't make it through a full day without somebody telling me that I need to "Check my attitude". I mean wtf is that about!?lol Personally I don't think that my attitude is all that bad: I mean it could be alot worse but its not. I admit I do have little to no tolerance for bullshyt but I'm sure that's the way most people are; and yes I got a little smart mouth but most of the time I'm just joking around but people tend to think that I'm serious but I'm a real sweetie so I think that people should just loosen up a bit...But whatever...Anyways I found this article a while back ago by Michael Eric Dyson who has written numerous other articles and books including his book "Is Bill Cosby Right?: Or Has the Black Middle Class Lost its Mind?" which I plan on reading sometime here in the near future...But in this article he addresses the Black female attitude and gives it a purpose... Micheal Eric Dyson breaks it down: The rolling of the eyes. The verbal whiplash. The creatively choreographed neck twist. Black women indeed have a great deal of attitude--and it's a good thing. The Black female attitude is a VITAL SURVIVAL TRAIT. Without a defiant spirit, Black women would have long ago been eaten up by a society that loves and loathes their bodies and brains. Without the spunk and vitality they bring, the race wouldn't have come as far as it has. Sure, sometimes their temperamental dispositions can be overbearing. But if brothers view it from a woman's perspective, we might see just how hard it is to turn that spirit on and off at will. Most brothers don't mind how far Black women go to prove their love for us. There's no greater force on earth than a Black woman who decides to love you. Now that's an attitude we brothers need to adjust to. (Michael Eric Dyson is the Avalon Professor in the Humanities at the University of Pennsylvania).

The Empowered Woman

The Empowered woman. She moves with a sense of confidence and grace Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom. Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation and the life she leads is of her own creation. She now understands what it mean to live and let live. How much to ask for herself,and how much to give. She has strong yet generous heart and the inner beauty she emanates truly sets her apart. Like the mythical phoenix, she has risen from the ashes and has soared to a new plane of existance unfeltered by the things that once posed such resistance. Her sense now heightened, she sees everything so clearly. She hears the wind rustling through the trees, beckoning her to live the dreams she hold so dearly. She feels the softness of her hands and muses at the strength the posess. Her needs and desires she has learned to express. She has tasted the bitter and savored the sweet fruits of life. She has overcome adversity and pushed past heartache and strife. And one thing she never understood, she knows to be true: It all begins and ends with you.
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