How To Use "Sexual Tension" With Women
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NOTE: Somewhere in this newsletter I reveal to
you an almost "magical" technique... This
particular technique is one of those "gems" that
you can use in many situations with women... one
that has the power to instantly transform the
energy between you and a woman into an almost
INSTANT ATTRACTION...
Here's an interesting thought:
Ask 100 attractive women if they know what the
words "Chemistry" and "Sexual Tension" mean,
they'll all nod their heads and say "Of course!".
Ask 100 guys off the street if they know what
the words "Chemistry" and "Sexual Tension" mean,
and about 98 of them will give you a dumb look and
say "Uh, not really".
A few will probably say things like "Um, is
Sexual Tension like... when you and a chick are
having sex in a weird position and you get a
cramp... right?".
The reality of this situation is that most
attractive women know EXACTLY what Chemistry and
Sexual Tension are... and they can describe them
in DETAIL... but most men have literally NO
IDEA... they're completely clueless.
Think about that.
I'm talking about an incredible phenomenon
here...
How is it POSSIBLE that one of the most
important aspects of attracting a woman is
something that most men know NOTHING about?
And how is it that almost ALL attractive women
are totally "in the know" about this stuff?
Is there some kind of strange conspiracy
against men?
Are women keeping a secret from us guys just so
we won't be able to break the code?
Maybe.
I mean, think about it...
If you were an attractive woman, would you want
to find a guy that you had to TEACH the concepts
of Chemistry and Sexual Tension to... or would you
want a guy who just "got it" on his own...
"naturally"?
Duh.
You'd want the guy who already "got it".
So more likely than a conspiracy against
clueless men, women just naturally respond to men
who GET IT, and DON'T respond to men who DON'T.
So let's talk about these concepts a little bit
more.
When a woman uses the word "Chemistry", as in
"There was chemistry between us" or "I want to
meet a man and have natural chemistry", she's
talking about ATTRACTION.
Chemistry is about a woman perceiving that she
and a guy are "naturally compatible" because her
emotional and physical sparks fly when she meets
or is around that guy.
NOTE: I did NOT use the word "logical" here.
Chemistry is NOT the result of a woman meeting
a man and then thinking to herself "Let's see...
he is six feet tall, has a good job making 37%
more than the medial salary, is the correct age
for child rearing... I think that we have a
natural chemistry...".
Nooooo way.
For a woman, Chemistry is either THERE, or it
ISN'T.
There's no two ways about it.
Unfortunately, most guys hear the word
"Chemistry" and they think it somehow equates to
"The guy must be good-looking so the girl thinks
he's sexy... and since I'm NOT the most handsome
guy alive, women won't feel it with ME".
This is only because most guys don't get that
you can make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you
REGARDLESS of your looks, age, income, height, or
anything else.
So let me repeat:
"Chemistry is about a woman perceiving that she
and a guy are "naturally compatible" because her
emotional and physical sparks fly when she meets
or is around that guy."
Now let's talk about Sexual Tension.
Sexual Tension is about the interaction.
It's that feeling you get when you're in the
presence of someone you're attracted to, but there
are OBSTACLES, ANTICIPATION, HUMOR, and/or other
ingredients in the mix that both increase the
ATTRACTION, and increase the TENSION in the
situation.
Sexual Tension is the combination of being
pulled toward someone, but also feeling resistance
at the same time.
It's about not knowing what's going to happen,
but being on the edge of your seat WANTING to know
what's going to happen.
Think of it this way...
If a woman KNOWS that she has you right from
the beginning, she won't be as interested... this
is why so many guys kill their chances with a girl
instantly by going "overboard" and doing too many
things to demonstrate his interest.
But if she DOESN'T know whether or not you're
interested, and you keep the mystery up, while
making her more and more interested, she will
think about you ALL THE TIME.
This is creating Chemistry, and increasing the
Sexual Tension.
Will a woman feel more ATTRACTION for a guy who
always talks to her when he sees her, always calls
her, and is always available?
No.
She'll feel more attraction if he's more
mysterious, challenging, and unpredictable.
Remember, Sexual Tension is GOOD for
attraction, not bad for it...
So let's talk about some great ways to create
Sexual Tension... which will NATURALLY lead to
that magical feeling of CHEMISTRY.
Here are a few of my favorite ways to create
and amplify Sexual Tension:
1) BE COCKY & FUNNY
Being Cocky & Funny, or using Cocky Comedy, is
a fun, interesting, enjoyable way to create and
amplify Sexual Tension.
The formula is:
Start with an arrogant thought, then add humor
to complete.
If you're standing in line waiting for your
coffee, and you notice an attractive woman behind
the counter, you could say "Hurry up, you're not
working fast enough" in a serious tone of voice.
That's arrogant. It's cocky. But it's not at
all FUNNY.
You'd sound like a jerk-off if you said that in
a cold way.
If instead you said "Hey, since you like me and
this line is always long, how about if I just walk
to the front from now on and you give me free
coffee?"...
Now that's a whole different story.
If that same girl behind the counter goes to
take your money, and drops it, you could say
"You're a klutz, watch what you're doing".
If you did, you'd sound rude and stupid.
On the other hand, if you start shaking your
head, roll your eyes, and breath out through your
nose loudly in a dramatic way like you're
completely annoyed with her (in a funny way),
you're going to make her laugh.
Good thing.
These are examples of being Cocky & Funny, or
using Cocky Comedy.
2) WAIT TO CALL HER
What do most guys do when they get a girl's
number or email address?
Right, they call or write three minutes later.
"Hi, it was great meeting you a few minutes
ago... so, what are you doing?"
OUCH.
Calling or writing a woman immediately is one
good way to destroy any anticipation or Sexual
Tension that was present in the moment.
On the other hand, if you call up two days
later and say "Hey, what up? I'm busy tonight, and
tomorrow, but let's do something on Friday. Here's
my number, call me... I gotta go..." that's a
TOTALLY different type of communication.
By day two, she's already wondering why you
haven't called, wondering if you're getting back
together with your ex that she's imagining being a
model... and generally beginning to wonder if and
when you're going to call.
Waiting builds tension. Do it. And do it after
the FIRST call as well. Learn to become
comfortable not knowing what's going on... and
waiting to find out. It's MUCH better.
3) TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK
This is the ultimate formula for AMPLIFYING a
woman's anticipation, arousal, and interest in
you.
Moving two steps forward, and one step back
takes Sexual Tension, and it DIALS IT UP.
The idea is simple:
Every time you make "progress" in a romantic
way with a woman, STOP. Then lean back.
For instance, if you have been talking to her,
and you start holding hands... after a few
minutes, TAKE YOUR HAND BACK.
Then lean back physically, and move away from
her for a little while.
If you wind up kissing a little while later,
STOP kissing her, and lean back again.
Get it?
Women don't get turned on quite the same way
men do.
Men are on/off switches.
Women are volume knobs... that need to be
turned up gradually.
If you show some self-control, make her feel
good, and then go two forward, one back you will
give a woman an experience she'll really enjoy,
and won't forget. (By the way, this kind of
"subtle" method of creating tension is one of
the MOST powerful things you can do to increase
the amount of attraction a woman is feeling for
you. If you enjoy this kind of thing), read this:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/SexualCommunication/
4) TEASE HER
Women LOVE teasing when it's done in the right
way.
Some people think of teasing as "making fun
of"...
Now, I DO love to make fun of women... but I'm
talking about a different type of teasing right
now.
I'm talking about the type of teasing where you
give someone a LITTLE BIT of what they want, then
take it away so they want it MORE.
I'm talking about leaning in to kiss a woman,
then stopping right before you kiss her... so she
can feel your lips just about to touch hers, and
then staying there for just a moment...
...and then LEANING BACK.
You're teasing her.
You know that she wants you to kiss her, but
you're NOT kissing her.
You're in control, and she loves it, hates it,
and WANTS IT.
Teasing creates this Sexual Tension rapidly.
You can tease in many ways...
Next time you're buying something, when the
girl behind the counter reaches out to take your
money, put it in her hand, then quickly take it
away as she grabs it.
That's teasing.
It's fun, and you can use it almost everywhere
for the enjoyment of both you and her...
ANOTHER REAL-WORLD EXAMPLE:
Let's say you and a woman are out together, and
you're enjoying your evening.
She decides to throw out one of those types of
questions that you're not expecting, but that seem
DESIGNED to throw you off...
She asks the question... "Do you think we'll
ever have sex?"
Now, most men will answer, "I hope so" or "why,
do you want to?"
Sexual Tension - KILLED.
She asks, "Do you think we'll ever have sex"...
You answer, "Only in your dreams... and calm
down, just because I'm out with you doesn't mean
I'm going to sleep with you"...
Sexual Tension - AMPLIFIED.
When she asked the question, she was TESTING
you... she wanted to know if you were going to
bite down on the bait. She was finding out if you
were REALLY as in control as it seemed.
You either pass or fail those.
The more you watch for, listen for, and pay
attention to Sexual Tension, the more you'll begin
to NOTICE it.
And the more you NOTICE IT, the more you can
start to control it, amplify it, and direct it.
A FAVORITE WAY TO CREATE CHEMISTRY AND SEXUAL
TENSION
I'm going to share a FANTASTIC technique with
you right now, so put on your thinking cap, and
remember this one.
This is a great way to let a woman know that
you understand Sexual Tension and Chemistry, while
at the same time CREATING THEM.
Let's use a real-world situation.
Maybe you had responded to a few online
personals, and some women have written you back...
And lets say that one of the women said, "tell
me more about yourself", etc.
Let's further say that in her online personal
profile she mentioned that she loved cats...
You might write her back, and say:
"Here's a little more about me... I'm sitting
on my favorite chair, reading a magazine. You walk
into the room, and the air shifts... you slowly
and carefully walk up to where I'm sitting, and
rub up against my leg... I look down at you, and
you look back at me... "Meow", you say... I reach
down, and gently stroke your head... and you go
running away... like a typical kitty cat..."
If you are acting like a MAN, being Cocky &
Funny, communicating that you're in control of
yourself and the situation, etc., something like
this can be MAGICAL.
A story like this one communicates sooooo many
things at once... things that would take you
literally weeks of "regular" communication to
convey to her.
A little story like this one, at just the right
time can create so much Sexual Tension, and spark
the Chemistry so fast that you'll often INSTANTLY
take things to a different level with a woman.
Now, there's a very important factor that you
MUST understand...
You CANNOT do this, create a little story like
this, and try to use this way of talking to a
woman if you're acting like a WUSSY.
This can only be used in the context of you
having communicated that you're a MAN... and one
that understands ATTRACTION, at that.
If you try to do this kind of thing before
you've communicated that you're a masculine,
powerful guy, you're only going to make a woman
RUN away.
So now that you understand Chemistry and Sexual
Tension... and finally had someone explain these
amazing concepts to you... what's the best way to
learn the other keys to making women feel
ATTRACTION for you?
Glad you asked...
The best way to learn the "language" of what I
call "Sexual Communication" is to check out my
DVD/CD program that goes by the same name.
Inside my Sexual Communication program, I'm
going to teach you everything from the PSYCHOLOGY
of attraction and "chemistry"... but I'm also
going to teach you how to CREATE it.
Learning how to speak this language that I call
Sexual Communication is one of the MOST important
skills you'll ever learn.
And this is the only place to learn it.
You can check out some great video clips of the
program, plus read all about it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/SexualCommunication/
And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
"Double Your Dating" yet, then go and do that now.
It's a great introduction to my ideas and
techniques. You can download it now and be reading
it in just a few minutes from right now. It's
here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/eBook/
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.