How To Stop Picking The Wrong Guys
*Tip: If you keep picking all the wrong men
(or men who are "taken") and you have a NEGATIVE
PATTERN in your relationships, then guess what?
It's NOT because all the men out there just don't
"get it". It's because YOU keep putting yourself
in the same wrong situations. If you'd like to
quickly BREAK THE HABIT of making poor decisions
with men and start ATTRACTING THE RIGHT MAN for
a loving and lasting relationship, then read THIS:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/ReadyForLove/
Dear Crystal,
Have you ever found yourself wishing that
you could find a great guy for a lasting
relationship... only later to recognize that
all you're actually doing is dating the wrong
"unavailable" men instead?
It's at this point that "dating" and trying
to find the right guy can feel like a complete
waste of time.
If you're like lots of women, then the idea
of having a loving and committed relationship
with a great guy is exactly what you picture in
your mind...
But things never quite work out this way
for you.
Instead, you find all the WRONG GUYS and
end up falling into the wrong relationships.
And it's not until you're already involved
with the wrong guy that you find out who he
really is, and where he's really at.
Or... you learn that the man you've been
seeing already has ANOTHER WOMAN in his life.
But by the time you find all this out, it's
just too late.
You've already grown ATTACHED to this man
and to making things work no matter how hard
or "unwise" it seems.
Arrgggh!
These kinds of situations are enough to
make you want to give up altogether.
Now, let me also ask you this...
Do you have any girlfriends who are
constantly talking and complaining about men
and how relationships never work out for them?
Each relationship is a huge struggle where
they feel like they're the only one's "doing
the work".
And when their relationship ends, they have
a brief "awakening" where they realize what a
nightmare things have been. So they swear to
NEVER EVER get into the same kind of situation
they were in ever again.
But wouldn't you know it...
As soon as they're finished with one bad
relationship, they manage to find and start
another.
And all of a sudden they're talking about a
new set of "problems" that soundly STRANGELY
FAMILIAR.
Of course, when you were listening to all
of this going on for your girlfriend the first
few times around, you might have thought she
really did have some bad luck when it came to
men, love, and relationships.
And you felt bad and wondered why things
were going so badly for her.
Why was it so IMPOSSIBLE for her to have a
real, open, honest relationship with a man?
Were all these men just screwed up?
But after months of the same things over
and over again where she didn't really listen
or do anything about it, and watching her get
herself into the same situations with different
men... you started seeing things from a new
perspective-
Maybe it wasn't all about these men.
Sure, these guys were immature and had their
"issues". But it was your friend who was the one
who ultimately picked and chose all these men
in the first place.
And maybe there was more to this than her
being "unlucky in love".
Sure, bad things happen and men can be
unpredictable and hard to deal with sometimes.
But everyday there are women who have had
"back luck" with men who finally start to get
it and quickly turn their love lives around
for good.
Are you starting to see where I'm going with
this, and how it relates to you?
Good.
Here's the reality...
If you've had a repeating cycle of the
wrong relationships with the wrong men, then
whether you'd like to admit it or not... there's
a part of you that's acting just like those
other girlfriends of yours.
And just like them, if you've got the same
negative and painful situations coming up that
don't see to be going away until men "figure it
out"... then it's probably going to be a VERY
VERY LONG TIME until a man finally does figure
it out for you.
If he ever does.
Don't wait for a man to figure it out for
you and make things easy the way you think they
should work.
If you spend just a little time and energy
learning to break your own patterns that are
in your way to love and a great relationship...
And you're willing to address YOUR PART in
either creating a great relationship, or having
one that only brings you pain and heartache...
then I've got something you need to check out
right now:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/ReadyForLove/
At this link I just gave you is a special
letter where I outline the 5 most critical
things you need to address if you want to make
sure and AVOID the SELF-DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIORS
that keep most women from finding and enjoying
the love and the relationship they want.
Again, it's here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/ReadyForLove/
Ok, back to it.
I'm going to share with you a powerful and
important insight that you might not be at all
aware of right now...
HOW YOU'RE WASTING YOUR ENERGY BY HELPING IT WORK
AGAINST YOU
One of the things I've seen get in women's
way the most over the years I've been helping
them be more successful and fulfilled with love
and relationships is not understanding what I
call "The Relationship Balance".
When most women start a new relationship
with a man, everything is easy and has a fun
and natural "flow" to it.
But as time passes, something always ends
up changing.
Whether it's because the man you're with
starts acting differently, or it's time to
have "the talk"... there's always that critical
moment in every relationship where you need
to communicate more and have an understanding
about where things are going.
Call it a first kind of "commitment" in
your relationship.
Unfortunately for most women in this moment,
they aren't aware that in their relationship
there's a subtle and delicate balance going on
between them and the man they're with.
To them, things just feel right and that's
what really matters.
But when they show up and start talking
about their relationship moving forward,
suddenly the excitement and energy you have
invested in being with this man affects him
VERY differently.
Somehow he goes from wanting to spend more
time with you and be with you... to not being
very open or affectionate with you, and keeping
his thoughts and feelings to himself.
To you, it seems like he's become WITHDRAWN
because he must be scared or nervous about the
idea of getting more "serious" with you.
But what most women don't realize about
this is that there's what I'll call an "energetic"
shift going on here.
Before you wanted to have "the talk" with
him and know where your relationship was going,
or before you felt UNCERTAIN and wanted to know
what he was thinking and feeling... he was
always GIVING to you.
He would give affection. He would give his
time and attention. And he'd compliment you
and say all kinds of amazing things.
But after you start asking him about what
they mean and where things are headed, he
perceives what you're saying not as an invitation
for you both to keep GIVING and sharing with
each other... but as a DEMAND that you RECEIVE.
If you know anything about men yet, then
you know that men don't meet with DEMANDS well
at all. Especially in relationships and when
it comes to anything that involves EMOTIONS.
When you start asking a man what's going on,
prompting him to tell you all his thoughts and
feelings... and you start to WORRY about what
is going to happen next, there's a huge shift
that happens.
Instead of having the easy and fun flow to
your relationship with the BALANCE you used to
enjoy... the man you're with will quickly start
to see you as what I call a "Convincer".
This is a woman who tries to convince a man
that he should want to be with her, and that
the only "right" thing to do or say involves
meeting her idea of what the relationship needs
to be.
You can probably guess how a man reacts
to a woman taking on the role of the "Convincer".
Exactly. His natural and almost immediate
response that is triggered is for him to RESIST
and take on the role of the "Resistor" in the
relationship.
And before you know it the whole balance of
your relationship is thrown off.
By using your good intentions to try and
bring you and the man in your life closer
together... you have the right idea.
But the way you go about it feels like a
DEMAND to him, and it makes him feel the
complete OPPOSITE OF ATTRACTED to you... to
where he's not at all interested in you and a
more serious relationship at that moment.
To get back to that fun and loving BALANCE
in your relationship with a man... the answer
is NOT to try and talk to him about your
relationship more.
But this is the fatal mistake that most
women try without even thinking about it.
If you want to shift the balance in your
relationship back to one where a man is open,
loving, affectionate, and listens to you without
becoming withdrawn or defensive or irritated
by you... then the very best thing you can do
is LET CHANGE BEGIN WITH YOU.
In my eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him" I show
you exactly how the Relationship Balance works,
and go into detail about the Convince and Resistor
roles men and women take on in relationships.
If you've become the "Convincer" and a man
reacts to you as though you are making DEMANDS
on him whenever you want to talk about your
relationship... then I STRONGLY SUGGEST you
download a copy of my eBook right now and learn
exactly what you can say and do that will help
you create that magical "shift".
You can download a copy of my eBook right
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And if you realize that you're struggling
with some deeper emotional issues of your own
that are getting in your way when you try and
talk to a man or make your relationship work,
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And best of all, experience a level of LOVE
and CONNECTION they knew was possible, but they
just weren't about to find with a man before and
bring out in themselves.
So don't wait for the world and a man to
finally figure it out for you and help you
experience the love and the healthy and lasting
relationship you want.
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I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck
in Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
