WHAT WOMEN "REALLY MEAN"...
I hope you're sitting down... because what I'm
about to share with you will change how you view
women and dating.
I'm about to take you "behind the scenes" in
the female mind.
I'm going to give you a perspective that most
men never see or realize.
Unfortunately for most guys, not seeing things
the way I'm about to share with you, keeps them
trapped in their own little world of failure.
If you pay careful attention to the things I'm
about to reveal to you, you'll definitely have
more success with women.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WORDS AND THE REAL
WORLD...
Have you ever heard a woman say something like:
"I want a guy who is sensitive."
"I want a guy who's in touch with his feelings."
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
"I want a guy who is strong."
"I want a guy who is sexy."
...?
Of course you have.
Women say this stuff all the time.
One of my favorites is:
"I want a REAL MAN."
I love that one.
In the past, when I'd hear women say, "I want a
REAL MAN", I had NO IDEA what the hell they were
talking about.
It almost didn't make sense.
But keep in mind, even though these things
don't always make sense to us guys, they make
PERFECT sense to women.
Here's the problem...
When a woman says one of these things, she
actually MEANS something that is different from
what a guy would mean if he said the same words.
Let me explain.
If a guy says "I'm going to stay home and relax
today", he probably means that he's going to stay
home, watch some sports, drink a beer, look at
pictures of women on the internet, and order a
pizza.
If a WOMAN says that she's going to stay home
and relax, she's probably NOT going to watch some
sports, drink a beer, look at pictures of women on
the internet, and order a pizza.
IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this right
now and you are a woman who watches sports, drinks
beer, looks at pictures of the women on the
internet, and orders pizza to relax, then contact
me immediately at the email address below. And
send pictures.
Back to what I was saying...
Women are DIFFERENT from men. And the words
they use often don't mean what they SOUND like
they mean.
So, the FIRST thing that you have to get
through your head is that just because a woman
SAYS something to you, doesn't mean that it means
what you THINK it means.
Catch my meaning?
THE BIG SECRET SHE ISN'T TELLING YOU
There's a little secret that women never happen
to mention when they're describing what they want
in a man.
Unfortunately, for all of us good guys who are
trying to be what women want... and hoping that if
we try hard enough to please women that they'll
like us... this little secret is causing us a LOT
of trouble.
The SECRET is that women ONLY want the things
that they're asking for from a guy who already has
about 100 other qualities that they never mention.
In other words, if a woman says, "I want a man
who is a good communicator", what she REALLY means
is:
"I want a guy who already has his life together,
is interesting, unpredictable, dominant, funny,
healthy, charismatic, confident, and loyal... who
is ALSO a good communicator."
The REALITY is that when a woman says one of
these "I want a guy who" statements, she actually
has an IDEAL guy in mind, who ALSO happens to be a
good communicator.
She's NOT imagining Homer Simpson sitting on
his couch reading a book on communication.
The reality of this situation is that what
women REALLY want is a man who makes them feel the
emotional and physical response that I like to
call ATTRACTION.
They want a man who makes them FEEL IT.
But, most women either can't describe the
things that actually make her feel ATTRACTION, or
they don't WANT to have to describe them, because
they want a man who already IS those things...
without having to learn them.
Think about it.
If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you want
one that said, "Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Just
give me some time to learn..." or would you want
one that already KNEW how to kick ass anytime,
anywhere without having to learn?
Duh.
Well, the same goes with women.
They don't WANT a guy that they have to train.
If you don't already have the UNIVERSAL
FOUNDATION of what appeals to women, then no
amount of changing and improving things, like your
communication and sensitivity, is going to help
you.
WHAT IS A REAL MAN?
Lately I've been thinking a lot about the idea
of a "Real Man".
You hear both women and men using the term.
But what does it actually MEAN?
And is it important?
Well, after thinking about this particular
topic for a long time, I've come to the conclusion
that it is a VERY important topic.
At this point, I believe that a REAL MAN is
this "ideal" that women imagine when they're
saying "I want a guy who is sensitive".
They're thinking of the REAL MAN, and then
they're imagining him ALSO being sensitive.
There are a lot of aspects to this REAL MAN.
Here are a few that are important:
-Status
-Lack of Insecurities
-Standards
-Experience
-Humor
-Unpredictability
-Leadership
-A Challenge
...and the list goes on.
It's actually not easy to describe a REAL MAN
in a few sentences... but I'll tell you what... a
woman can recognize one INSTANTLY.
Before I tell you more... If you don't know what
a "Real Man" is, and you also get the feeling that
you might NOT be one, then you need to do yourself
a BIG favor and read this blog some other day sooner.
