How To Make A Woman Feel Comfortable
>One of the most important skills to learn when
you're learning to meet women is the skill of
creating "chemistry" or "sexual tension" using
your COMMUNICATION SKILLS only. And the FASTEST
way to learn this amazing ability is THIS:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/SexualCommunication/
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dear Dave,
I give you gratitude in SPADES. Now fully
converted against the way of the WUSSY, my
knowledge is expanding like Oprah's waistline. For
your entertainment, Jedi Master, I bring you my
latest tale of triumph (your loyal band of
apprentices could put this to use as well)....
three moons ago I found myself in a familiar
terrain (an alcohol infused celebration inside a
residential dwelling)...but this time my noggin
was armed with Dave's boost of mackishness. 5
minutes after arrival, my optical sockets fell
upon the physical structure of a quite genetically
fortunate feminine specimen (about a penny short
of a dime). I made eye contact and kept it with
her as I made my approach. I began my "player
patter" immediately and the dialogue went as
follows...
Me: You know what they say about girls who wear
these, right? (pointing to her large hoop
earrings) Her: What?
(I pause for a few seconds, then crack a hint of a
smile)
Me: That you cant afford enough jewelry, so you
use your bracelets as earrings.
(her jaw dropped, obviously surprised...then
turned into a smile)
Me (pretending like she said I was right about
her): Dammit, I hate it when I'm right! Are all the
rich girls taken or what? (I start walking away,
but she grabs me by the arm) Her: What's your
name?
Me: That depends...you tell me your name, and if I
like it I'll tell you mine. Her: R
Me: Alright R, before I tell you my name you gotta
tell me something. Her: Okay, what?
Me (stealing one of your lines): So what, are you
like four feet tall without the shoes? (she laughs
and hits me in the arm) Her: You don't like my
shoes?
Me: Well, they look okay on you I guess....since
you're a MIDGET and all. But they'd make a normal
size woman look freakishly tall. Her (laughing):
Your so mean! And you haven't told me your name
yet.
Me: You women are always trying to pick me up for
my good looks...I need to know that you aren't a
weirdo before I tell you my name. Ive had stalker
problems in the past.
And it was on after that. After I handed her a
few more ball busting comments that got
increasingly sexual...she handed ME an invitation
to her innards. 10 minutes later we were upstairs
desecrating a futon. That was the first time I've
done push-ups at a party! :) Not to mention Ive
gotten three phone calls from her since then (two
were invites to her quarters to...ahem, "bury my
muscle", hehehe). Make no mistake about it
readers, C&f WORKS! Dave, I wish I could thank you
in 3D, but since that isn't an option...I wish you
a long and fruitful life filled with good times
and hot x-chromosomes who could suck a barnacle
off a rock. Ive also got a couple questions, but
I'll shoot my flares toward you on a later date.
Sincerely, GD, Seattle
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well then.
You're obviously one who totally understands
the concept of being "Cocky & Funny" with women,
and using it to amplify ATTRACTION.
Love it.
This is a great story... Thanks!
***QUESTION***
Hey David, I bought your ebook and so far I've
been getting more numbers (around 2 or 3 a week)
than I ever did in my life. I usually don't do as
much cf as just maintain composure and confidence
when talking to girls, and the email + phone
number technique works great. However, I do have a
slight problem. I've gotten girls on the phone and
we set up a meeting (for a cup of coffee) after
I've gotten them to laugh and stuff, then they
tell me they're already seeing someone and that
they want to make sure we are just meeting as
friends. Am I doing something wrong? Or did these
girls actually think I wanted to be "just
friends?" Or yet, are these girls trying to test
me in some way? Anyways, I appreciate your help.
DC 18, Cali
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here's a rule of thumb for you:
If you start hearing things like, "I just want
to be friends" or "I'm kind of seeing someone
right now" when you call women on the phone, it
probably means that you're doing something when
you FIRST MEET the women that is causing them to
see you as a "nice guy friend" type.
You're probably not using what you've learned
to create what is known as "sexual tension" and
ATTRACTION.
If you don't quite get how these things work at
first, that's OK. Just keep doing what you're
learning, and you'll start to get a better feel.
I would say that you should START using the
Cocky & Funny material as soon as possible,
because it does create this tension and attraction
early on.
I also suggest that you start getting EMAILS
and not just numbers. Women tend to respond better
to emails in my personal experience.
***COMMENT***
David,
A few months ago, I sent you an e-mail asking
whether or not C&F works on older women. To
recap, I am in my late 30s and am looking for
women in the age 30-45 range. I tried C&F on
"Kelly", a 43 y/o divorced woman that I know.
"Kelly" facially looks 30, bodily looks 25, i.e.
she keeps herself in good shape. In applying "C&F"
to her, I discovered that with women her age
appreciate it, but you have to be more subtle with
it and much more creative. Why? Because 30- and
40-somethings have usually "been around the block"
more and are a somewhat more sophisticated than a
21 year old. And they appreciate it more when a
guy shows some sophistication around them.
Anyway, the night I was hitting on "Kelly," she
was wearing a leopard print top and a leather
skirt, both of which made her look hot! I "busted
her balls" by getting on her case about how the
leopard is an endangered species, and how dare she
wear an endangered species (the top was rayon).
She then asked why I didn't get on her for wearing
leather which really came from an animal. I
replied that if people didn't eat burgers and wear
leather, we'd be up to our armpits in cows! She
loved it! Now here comes the comment part of this
e-mail: within 5 minutes, I asked her for her e-
mail, which she gave and then her phone number,
which she refused to give me at first. When she
answered "no", I immediately asked "How often do
you answer your e-mail?" Guys, notice what I did
here? I was not thrown off by her initial
refusal. Women are sometimes hesitant to give out
their numbers, and they have every right to
be...there are a lot of a#holes around. She didn't
give her number out, but she was interested in
keeping communication open between us. There's an
old saying in sales that "no" means "know". She
wanted to know me a little better before she gave
out the number. (In sales, that is called a "false
objection). So guys, don't pester a woman if she
doesn't give you her number immediately. Don't
lose control and get thrown off. IF she's giving
you her e-mail, she's interested. (By the way
guys, try flirting sometime with an older, still-
hot woman. It's good practice, you'll really make
her day, and you might find out what an
experienced woman can do for you). P
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice insight.
It is VERY important not to let a woman's
initial "resistance" throw you off and cause you
to quit. Often, a woman just wants to talk to you
a little more and get to know you a little better
before she gives out her info.
The more you interact with women, the better
you'll get at creating a "comfortable" mood with
women that will lead to them giving you their
contact info quickly.
As far as being more "subtle" and creative with
the older, more sophisticated women... agreed.
Thanks for the great example.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hello Big D.
I've been reading your newsletter for two weeks
now and will begin downloading your book as soon
as I hit Send. I just wanted to take a minute to
tell you that I've never had so much fun. For as
long as I can remember, I've been "addicted" to
the idea of chivalry, and being the nicest guy any
woman has ever met. Your ideas are so foreign to
me, and yet so familiar. I've always been somewhat
funny and often accused of being a cocky bastard,
usually by male friends. As I reflected on
high school and college days, I remembered female
friends who I treated "like one of the guys" -
they were ALWAYS hanging around. I couldn't
figure out why THEY hung around but the women I
was interested in ran away. I was the biggest
pansy-ass wuss that ever walked the campus. I
opened their doors, stood when they sat down or
left the table, always had kind words to say etc
etc etc. AND I JUST DIDN'T GET IT ( And I mean
that in more ways than one ) After reading your
newsletter for two weeks, I figured I'd give your
"psycho method" (sorry that's what I thought - at
first ) a shot. OMG! The first woman (girl?) I
met at a store basically threw herself at me while
I was buying some stuff at her register. I gave
her a bad time about the silly shirt she was
wearing and suggested she follow me to the
clothing section to pick out something more
flattering. She said "OK, I'm going on break now
anyway". I'm not terrible looking, but this girl
was an 8+ AND I'm 38 she couldn't have been more
than 26. To make a long story short - we had a
good time ;-) she didn't mind the age difference
at all. On the way home, that same night, I
stopped at a gas station to fill up. A gorgeous
hottie (much closer to my own age) had just
finished filling her tank. So I said - "Hey
sweetie, fillerup, and check the oil too." She
laughed and said she didn't work there. I said "So?
are you gonna check my oil or what? I'll pump the
gas myself" as I began pumping the gas, she walked
over and told me to pop the hood! Damn! I popped
the hood and she checked the oil for me! As we
walked together to pay I told her I was impressed
that she found the dipstick and checked the oil
without breaking a nail. Again she laughed and
SHE opened the door for ME paid for her fuel and
waited for me to pay (and buy a bunch of crap I
didn't need just to see if she'd hang around). She
took my arm as I walked with her to her car (this
time I opened her door) she got in and I walked
away then, just as she started to leave, I stopped
her and got her email and digits She made me
PROMISE to call her, which took me three days, and
in that time I've busted on 6 other women. I doubt
I'll ever completely loose my "chivalrous habits"
but, I still can't believe a woman doesn't want
"Nice" on some occasions, just not ALL the look
forward to a bit of reading and a lot of success
with women.
Thank you,
Former Utah Wuss.
P.S. One comment in a recent newsletter was RIGHT
ON! The underground society of Double Your Dating
fanatics are not in Ogden, Utah. We are a couple
of counties south and, when I finish your book I
WILL BE THEIR KING!!!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Any man who can have a female stranger checking
his oil and opening doors for him within minutes
of meeting is basically my idol.
The best part of your approach is that it was
FUN for her as well. I love this stuff.
And as for the girl at the store who you felt
pity on and decided to give private fashion
lessons... this is an AMAZING example of how
attractive women often respond to men who give
them a hard time.
You know, I think I'm going to run down to the
gas station and see if I can't get some hot woman
to check my oil...
***COMMENT***
Good comments overall. I've been getting your
newsletter and it's really been a help. Anyhow,
I'm a musician. As a professional cornetist,
singer, and conductor, I focus a lot on posture
and the voice. Your last newsletter said:
"Suck in your stomach, hold your head up and back,
pull your shoulders back, arch your back..."
You missed the key to all of this, LIFT THE CHEST.
Place your hand at the bottom of your sternum and
use it as a guide to lift the chest. When the
chest is lifted correctly, the stomach muscles
will lie flat, without having to suck it in, the
back will be arched, and the shoulders will be
back in a more natural position.
Also, in body language, high shoulders indicate
stress, while lower, relaxed shoulders indicate
confidence and control.
Just thought I'd throw in my two cents on this
one. Keep up the good work!
~A.L.Q.~
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for the advice!
I just put my hand at the bottom of my sternum
and "lifted my chest", and it is EXACTLY what I
was talking about.
This is a great exercise.
More great Body Language secrets for creating
MASSIVE attraction with women here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/BodyLanguage/
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I have a success story and a question about your
material.
First of all, I recently purchased your e-book
and the CD audio series (which are incredible) I
have put the material in use the past several
weeks and I have had more success with women than
in the past ten years combined!!
I recently was at a coffee shop with a friend
when I noticed sitting next to us a group of three
women, one who was particularly attractive and
comely. I saw that she was wiping tears from her
eyes and I just looked at her and said, "Don't
start crying, I have not left here yet". Lo and
behold she looked at me with amazement and then
started smiling. I found out that she was hanging
out with her friends and that she was quite
emotional about the recent breakup with her
boyfriend. I continued being C& F with her and was
able to leave with her e-mail and number (all
thanks to you Dave).
Now, I have a tough question that has been
bothering me for a while. There have been several
times I have gone out with a woman and jokingly
teased them (about not knowing how to read a map
for example). I'll bust on them for not knowing
their right from their left. They all start
laughing and saying" You're so mean" or " I
thought you were a nice guy". Now, the question
is: How do you know when you are being cocky and
funny vs. downright mean? ( I know that the funny
part is important and you need a fine balance of C
& F). I think sometimes teasing a woman in a
joking manner truly upsets them. Any help on this
matter would be appreciated.
Disciple -in-training in Virginia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a GREAT question!
The fact is that sometimes you're going to meet
a woman who just doesn't have a sense of humor,
isn't in a good mood... is feeling hormonal... or
whatever.
Or sometimes you'll just make a comment that is
LAME.
It happens.
As they say in cooking:
"You can't make an omelet without breaking a
few eggs."
You just have to accept the idea that when
you're learning how to use this material that
you're going to occasionally run into a woman who
doesn't get your humor.
Don't worry about it.
Here are my personal ways to disarm one of
these situations:
1) Say, "It was a joke" with deadpan serious look
on your face.
Saying, "it was a joke" in this manner is very
funny all by itself, because your serious look
contradicts the words. This will often get a laugh
all by itself and allow you to continue with the
line of Cocky & Funny humor you were using in the
first place.
2) Give her a "sly smile".
The sly smile is a great way to interrupt a
woman who is taking you too seriously. As she
starts to get upset, just squint your eyes a
little, purse your lips, and smile with a look of
"You're cute when you're mad".
3) Start laughing.
This is another personal favorite. Just start
laughing as she starts to get offended. Even tell
her that she's cute and needs to lighten up a
little.
...all of these work well when women are
GENUINELY offended or upset, because they
communicate that you were kidding around.
But, here's a warning: Don't use these TOO
much. If you use them when she's not actually
offended, they'll make you look weak and insecure.
In general, women love to "play like they're
offended" when you tease them.
For instance, a woman might open her mouth with
that "I can't believe you just said that look".
This is usually the signal to TURN IT UP! Keep
going. Most women know you're just flirting with
them... so don't turn into a WUSSY at the first
sign of emotion.
***QUESTION***
Hello Dave.
I recently ordered your book, and wanted to say
it was like you had brought to light feelings I
always suspected but never could quite put into
words. I have been in college for 2 years now, and
am always amazed by how attracted women are to the
guys who seem to be a little rough with them. (By
"rough", I mean personality-wise), especially when
guys like me (who would do mostly anything for
them) were all over. I am now trying to bring out
the cocky and funny in me and apply your ideas.
I have a girlfriend who has always been
controlling. Her having a lot of what I wanted
(hot, intelligent, career-focused) wanted to keep
her around, and gave her whatever she wanted. I
could tell exactly what you mentioned in your book
- that she was actually becoming less interested
in me because of it. I got the feeling I was more
"there to give to her" rather than share a great
relationship with. Now, I tried some of your
techniques with her the other day. She hates
surprises. I told her I had one. She insisted I
tell her what it was, and resorted to some pretty
harsh and bitchy tactics to try to get what she
wanted, including calling names and even
threatening to leave! I simply came back at her
with a retort every time that indicated I really
could give a damn, and even that I was getting
amused by her little rant and rave. You know what?
There came a point I have never seen with
her...she actually backed down. She suddenly
changed the subject, and started acting VERY
responsive to me, suddenly seeming to care more
about what I was doing in life, how I was, etc.
Now, I don't know if it matters, but we have
recently become long-distance. My question is
this: You say that once a woman sees you as a
certain type of personality (I would be the wussy-
boy), it is very hard to back-pedal and become
somebody different in her eyes. She seems like
the type of woman you describe as one who likes to
have a boyfriend around for a while, and maybe
even marry, but really is only trying to take what
she's being given by a man-boy. By the response I
got from her to my latest test, it seemed as
though she had the potential to turn right around,
and that even after one application of your
techniques, that she may have started to see me
differently...that fast.
So, is it worth it? Can I re-mold my
personality with this girl, or am I out of luck.
By the way, we had been seeing each other for 9
moths, and just recently started dating long-
distance when she switched colleges. I think that
actually helped the situation, because she doesn't
have as much control or perspective about me from
a distance as she would in person. What would you
say I could do? Is she hopeless?
-Thanks for your great material. I'm already
putting a lot of faith in it after this quick
test. -J (ex wuss-to-be)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It's rare that I comment on "relationship"
issues, but your email caught my attention... so
here goes.
There are exceptions to every "rule of thumb".
My general rule on this topic goes something
like this:
If a woman thinks of you as a WUSS, it's
probably better to cut your losses and move on
rather than try to convince her that you're NOT a
wuss.
Trying to chance a first impression is hard
work, and relationships between two or more people
are rather difficult to re-adjust after becoming
set... unless you're an expert at it, which most
people aren't.
But, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't
"test" to see if your particular situation has
potential.
If you're willing to change your wussy ways,
start being strong and confident, and not being
the clingy girly-man that you once were, then give
it a shot.
Women can feel a REAL INTERNAL shift, and many
times they'll respond.
If things start working out they way you want
them to, then stick with what's working.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey David I was reading the latest mail bag and
a tip you mentioned - '...talk to a woman like she
was an old friend...' struck a chord. I was at a
party on Saturday, talking to this girl and, you
know making her laugh, keeping it cocky, busting
her balls and she said out of the blue its weird,
it seems like I've known you forever'. Wow!!!
Since starting with your materials (and some other
life changes that I've made) my success has
improved remarkably - I'm still below were I won't
to be, but just the fact I can actually talk to an
attractive woman, hold their attention, be (very)
funny and be confident in that type of situation
is a vast improvement, believe me.
A lot of the 'inner game' strategies have helped
too mental rehearsal, making friends with guys who
are genuine players, no staying home every Friday
night, actually working out (its been six months
know and that has made such a difference to my
self image) and most importantly, making a
commitment to myself to take responsibility and
put the hards in. Its a hell of a lot of work and
its very scary when I realize just how much I
don't know, but its definitely been worth it,
especially the increase in the quality of my life
and the level of control I now know I have.
So thanks Dave, You've helped me get of the couch,
put down the remote and start to become,
literally, a man :) If I keep this up I may even
get laid soon - lol! N H (from Australia)
PS Killer line I use now when talking to a girl
and busting her balls (it just came out of the
blue during a phone call) It what I call the 'a-
list' routine. Essentially - when sorting the
first date or just bring cocky funny - I imply
that there are not my 'a-list' friends/ option, so
I'm spending time with them until a list people
come along. And then I use it as a running gag -
so hows life in the b list, you must feel so
special now (as I slowly advance them from c to
b++ list, but never a-list!) Its sound weird but
it works like a charm, done the right way. I've
got several dates... from this approach!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The technique of acting like she's an old
friend is powerful indeed.
Once you master this relaxed state of thinking
and behaving, you'll find that MOST of the women
that you talk to say things like "I feel like I've
known you all my life" etc.
And the best part about this is that IT'S EASY.
Most guys get all uptight when they're talking
to attractive women. It's so much easier to stay
relaxed and just act like you're talking to an old
friend...
And as for your "a-list" routine...
That's funny!
Any way you can communicate that you're picky
and selective will only increase the ATTRACTION
present in the situation.
Great stuff.
***QUESTION***
David
I just bought the CD advanced series and I would
like to recommend it to anyone who read the book,
this is by far the best stuff coming out from your
'terrible' women magnetic mind, loved every one of
them. You kept me up nights and disrupted my whole
last week at work , u shall pay for it . Well.the
least you can do is extract me from my little hell
in paradise and solve my dilemma.
I have used the system on this 10-10 gal , she
is nearly double my height, we get looks all the
time, but who cares. Problem is women
automatically get attracted to me, thinking what
the hell is this guy hiding under his sleeve. I'm
32, look closer to 36, short and even a bit over
weight and having a blast with this 20 year old
slim tall model. Their eyes say, 'hey , lemme have
a piece of you too, u must be doing something
right'. Problem is, every time I go out with her,
girls look, smile, wink at me behind her back,
trying to get my attention. How can I capitalize
on that, I wont their No's, I'm greedy, I want
more! Slipping them my number without speaking to
them, would be against the grain of your system,
so what to do? This is hell in paradise! girls
starting up with me, and I cannot do anything! u
must have some idea!
D
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, let me get this straight...
You've used these materials to get a "10-10" 20
year old slim tall model... who is nearly DOUBLE
your height, and all you want to know is how to
hook up with the other women who are checking you
out when you're with her?
You're too much.
Well, first of all, let me mention again that I
don't like the idea of being a "relationship
wrecker", and I don't recommend that guys do
sneaky things.
If you and this girl have agreed to be in an
exclusive relationship, then forget what I'm about
to say.... lol...
But, if you're just casually dating, then
here's an idea for you:
When you're out with this girl, walk away from
her once in awhile. If the two of you are talking
to a group, just say, "I'll be right back" and
leave.
My personal experience is that this alone shows
a "non-wuss" attitude that is attractive.
Then, while you're wandering around, stop and
say, "hi" to the woman or women that were winking
at you.
Talk for a minute, then say, "I'm going to get
back to my guest" and then, "Do you have a card?"
Make sure to get an email and good phone number,
even if she has to write them down.
Asking for a card is a great way to say, "I'd
like to talk to you again", but have it come
across in a semi-professional manner that leaves
her wondering what is really up.
And I think that cards are perceived as less of
a threat by the current date than hand-written
numbers/emails.
Think about it. You are a very, very bad man,
by the way.
...one more comment...
It's funny, because many of my friends who are
really amazing with women aren't at all what you'd
consider "attractive".
They're not handsome, not tall, not rich, and
not "sexy" in appearance.
In fact, I have at LEAST 4 or 5 friends who are
between about five foot two and five foot seven
that are KILLER with women. Some of them are
balding and overweight to boot.
My point is that they key to success with women
is KNOWING HOW THE PROCESS OF ATTRACTION WORKS,
and having the specific SKILLS it takes to
succeed. Nothing more, nothing less.
If you want to learn all of my very best ideas,
techniques, and personal strategies, then I'd
recommend that you check out my "Advanced Dating
Techniques" CD/DVD Program (the one that they guy
above with the 20 year old model mentioned in his
email). It's taken me literally YEARS to put all
of this great material together, and you can get
it all in about 12 hours of listening. Just go to:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/
And if you haven't downloaded my eBook "Double
Your Dating" and the three bonus booklets that
come along with it, then go do that RIGHT NOW. You
can download it and be reading it within a few
minutes. It's here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/eBook/
And I'll talk to you soon.
Your Friend,
David D.