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Tips for Discovering the Truth Despite popular belief, most lying and cheating does not get discovered because a suspicious spouse is good at reading his or her partner’s behavior. Typically, romantic partners get caught in one of two ways: Accidental Discovery: In most cases, deception and infidelity are uncovered by mistake. Monitoring a Spouse: Surveillance, on the other hand, is an attempt to discover the truth by monitoring a spouse’s behavior without his or her awareness. If you're dealing with a lying boyfriend, an unfaithful fiancé, or a cheating spouse, surveillance is almost always needed to get at the truth. Monitoring a spouse tends to be the most effective and reliable way to find out the truth. But, spying on a spouse can also cause it's own problems. Is it ethical to monitor a husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend without his or her knowledge (see, is it ethical to monitor a spouse)? On the other hand, if your dealing with a lying and/or cheating partner, how do you solve the problem, until the truth is out in the open? Tips for Catching Lying and Cheating: Keep a journal of your spouse’s reported activities. Write down the times, dates, places, other people involved, excuses given, etc. Your journal will become invaluable as you compare what’s said with phone bills, credit card statements, atm withdrawals, talk to other people, etc. A cheating spouse is likely to change his or her story, or question your memory, so keeping a record of everything is critical. Keep track of all incoming phone calls. Record the time and number of all calls. Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or make announcements about having to work late, but then come home early, etc. Keep track of your spouse’s mileage, receipts, credit card statements, atm withdrawals, phone records, etc. If you can, check your spouse’s call log. Look for an unusual amount of phone calls. Keep in mind that cheating spouses often store their lover’s phone number under someone else’s name: a friend, a co-worker, etc. You can also purchase surveillance equipment (hidden cameras and voice activated recorders) or download computer monitoring software (keylogger) which will make it easier for you to monitor your spouse's activities. Using such equipment can, however, can raise some legal issues (see, surveillance issues). Never confront your spouse until you're certain that you have enough evidence to make your case. And never reveal all of your evidence at once. Most cheating spouses will try to concoct a story to fit the evidence presented (for example, see husband won't confess). But, if you withhold some evidence, and let your spouse create a story, it gives you the opportunity to use the remaining evidence as leverage. And by strategically withholding evidence, your spouse will start to question exactly how much you know, increasing the odds that he or she will tell you the truth. Overall, if you find anything suspicious, do not confront your spouse until you're certain that you have enough evidence to get a confession. And again, think for a minute about how your spouse might try to dismiss your accusations (e.g., we were just joking around, I was just flirting, it was a misunderstanding, we are just friends, nothing happened, etc.). If you can anticipate how your spouse is likely to respond, you can try to gather the evidence you need to counter what he or she says. Finally, listed below are several more techniques, products, and services designed to help you catch a lying and cheating spouse. Computer Monitoring Software - allows you to see everything your spouse does online. Establish a record of all online activities. GPS Tracking Devices - purchase a global positioning satellite device which can track a vehicle's exact location 24 hours a day. Home Surveillance Equipment - hidden cameras and voice activated recording devices can be purchased in every shape and size imaginable. Comprehensive Background Checks - do you think your boyfriend or girlfriend is lying to you about the past? A background check can veal a lot about a person's past. Private Investigators - hiring a licensed investigator is the quickest and most effective way to discover the truth. In most cases, the options listed above are very effective when trying to discover the truth about a cheating spouse. If, however, none of those options work for you, several more options are provided below. Hopefully, you can find a technique that will work in your specific situation.
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