I guess I should start off by saying what I did lol..... I have actually stayed Married for 15 years as of May 2nd this year. In the past few days I have had a couple of peope ask me OMG how did you do it....And my reply was.......... Hum I dont know.
Ive been thinking about this questions for a few days now.. And I have been pondering what a good answer should be.. I would have to say alot of comperomise, alot of understanding on both sides, learning to over look each others little quriks and give each other space when needed, dont ever try to change the person your with, and be yourself in all matters.
But the truth is I really don't know how we made it this long thinking back it was a rough road with alot of twist and turns along the way. Trying to over look someones quirks haha we all know dont really happen we just learn to live with them, Comperomise lol just do it my way or we fight til I win or we forget what we were fighting about, Giving each other space well that is a good thing to do cause i ask him what do you need packed and just let me know about WHEN you'll be home, so I know how long I need to find a siiter for so I can go to work. And the biggest one is not trying to change someone.. Well no matter what change IS gonna happen. it seams the older you get the more things change and more you get set in your ways ! ( dont make sense , but its true) Lets face it people change wether or not we want to admit it , either you change with it or you fight it.. Honestly I think its a loss if you try to fight it. we all are who we are and no matter what we want its gonna happen. I hear people say all the time well you havent changed a bit ... Guess what I have it may not be noticable to people I dont see every day , but belive it we all do, even if we dont WANT TO ADMIT IT TO OURSELVES..
So the answer to HOW I DID IT is... I really dont know all I can say is I LOVE my husband, even through the rough spots, and the days he just ticks me off, Ive learned he is who he is & I am who I am and were not gonna change.
