So, here it is -- I want to be in a relationship. And, quite frankly, I haven't had a lot of luck with Match.com (or even OKCupid, which is where I've made some good friends). So I wanted to ask for your feedback (since you're, like, guys) on my profile... I really do want an honest assessment. What appeals to you, what might come off as needy, frightening, or otherwise off-putting. Also, for those of you who know me well, what would you put in a profile that I haven't? If you were writing a profile of me, what would you say?
About Me, and who I'm looking for
I laugh easily and often, and consider shared laughter essential in a relationship. I have piles of books in every room of my house, and I'm usually reading more than one of them at a time. I'm very much a night owl, and rarely go to bed before 2 a.m.
I'm girlie in a few ways (I like jewelry, the color pink, and painting my toenails), but I'm also into watching sports (particularly football and hockey) and playing video games. I am rather casual as a person, and although I enjoy dressing up, I really do it only on special occasions. (Maybe that's why I still enjoy it!)
I lean towards the liberal side, especially on social issues. I'm not religious, and we probably won't be compatible if you're deeply involved in an organized religion. That said, I appreciate the diversity of humanity and am supportive of the right of people to their beliefs. I am social, and like going out, but I am also very much a homebody, and enjoy staying in as well. In other words, I prefer a balance.
I work in computer software, and I really like my job. It's challenging and interesting most of the time, and there's always something new to learn. I am involved in musical theater, and usually perform in one or two musicals a year. I'm a classically trained musician, and I take voice lessons and play piano. I'm also a volunteer mentor through Big Brothers Big Sisters.
I like people who are slightly geeky/nerdy, but not totally socially awkward. Wide-ranging interests are good, as are respect and appreciation for human diversity. I consider myself somewhat classy but casual, and get along well with people who appreciate the arts but feel most comfortable in jeans.
I am straightforward and honest, but also sensitive and caring. I do not play games (what's the point?), and am very good at understanding emotional reactions and situations. I believe in friendship first, and then even if a romance doesn't blossom, perhaps I've made a friend. I am intelligent, and good conversation is a huge turn-on for me. Though I'm a loving person, I'm also strong-natured and independent. I would like a relationship, but I don't need one to feel happy with myself and my life.
I'm looking for someone who's secure in himself and in his life. Someone mature, but who still has a sense of humor. I'm intelligent, and get along best with people who aren't intimidated by that, but who also don't judge me for what interests I choose to pursue. I'm really not picky about age or appearance, only about compatibility in relationship goals and personality.
So, what do you think? Too long? What should I cut? I'm serious here -- I'm really looking for feedback. Pittsburgh is literally a dead zone for dating (it wins polls for "worst city for dating") and I need all the help I can get.
