I was raised in a home where guilt was used as a method of control. Then one day i had an epiphany.
Let me explain.
Guilt is an emotion. Just like Love is an emotion. Now it is common knowledge that you can't make someone feel love. They either love you or they don't. No more, no less.
Now, if Love and Guilt are both emotions, and you can't make somoene feel Love, wouldn't it stand to reason that you can't make someone feel guilt?
Yeah I know there are going to be someone of you that say "It isn't that they make you feel it, they convince you that of it."
But that logic still doesn't hold up. No one can convince me that I love someone. I either do or I don't. So why can't Guilt work the same way?
Just because someone says you are guilty, that doesn't mean you actually are.
Step back and use your conscience. That's why you have it.
If you can scincerly look at the situation in which you are being accused and say that you haven't done anything wrong, then don't assume responsibility for it. Take a stand and let that person know, "I haven't done anything wrong. And I won't let you try and make me feel guilty for something I haven't done"
Chances are, once you do that, they will stop. Why? Simple, they didn't get what they wanted out of it. They were trying to make you feel bad for not giving them/doing what they wanted.
Once they realize the tactic doesn't work, they will stop. They may also remove themselves from your life as a result. But who really needs people like that in thier life?
