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Going Home

I will be gone for an extended period of time. My 82 yr.old Mother fell and broke her leg this time. Dad is also 82 and in bad health and isn't able to take care of her and can't be alone himself. So I am going back home to spend some time with my parents. Time is running short for Dad he is not doing well at all. Mom will be laid up for about 6-8 weeks. I am looking forward to spending time with my family.My oldest brother is Flying in from Vegas at the end of the month which will be great to see him. He has also been ill. He has AML (Acute Myelogenous Leukemia)He's been in remission for 2 yrs. now and doing fairly good. We all live so far apart it's been ruff on us all with Mom & dad being up there in age and we all can't be together when we need to be.All four of us kids will be together for a while which will be nice unfortunately due to rotten circumstances. More later....... 1/12/09 Update I am leaving on Thursday. Don't know when I'll be back for sure. Hopefull about 4 weeks. Will try to drop in on all my Fu Friends once in awhile. Later.... 1/26/09 Well I've been here 2 weeks and not much has changed. Mom was moved to a Nursing Home for rehab. She is not happy about it.I am not able to take care of her myself and Dad can't help at all. We had her home for a nite but it was just awful. The Apt. is too small for a wheel chair, she can't support her own weight on her walker so she was no help. It took 4 of us to get her to bed that night. She doesn't weigh that much either.At one point my brother picked her up and carried her where she needed to go. Dad was ready to have a heart attack. So next Morning VNA visited and shipped her back to the hospital. Turned out DR. didn't want to send her home yet. Mom pushed and said she had someone at home to care for her. Mom did a little bit of stretching the truth to get out of the hospital. She had us all thinking she could get around a bit. Oh Well the woman is 82 yrs. old, I figure at that age it's great that she can still think like that. My oldest brother is coming in at the end of the week so I will get some help with Dad. He is another persistent old man. With all the snow we have been getting up here we have been trying to keep him in doors. He also falls easy. He manages to sneak out of the house before he gets caught. I usually have possession of both sets of car keys.I think he has a spare set hidden somewhere. BY all BB soon March 1st. I have been home for a little over a week now. Mom is still in the nursing home. I really hate her being there but it is too dangerous for he to be in their Apt. until she can put weight on her leg. She goes to the DR. tomorrow. Hope full it is healed enough for her to walk on it so she can go home. DR. said she'd need a week in therapy after getting the cast off learning how to walk on it again.This way if it should break again she will be in a safe place and be able to get immediate medical care. Hope fully she will be able to everything for herself and I won't need to go back up. I have been spending so much time back home lately that I am really missing my family. Dad won't be around much longer.His health is failing fast.He can still get around on his own but he also falls a lot.Thank God he hasn't broken anything. If he broke a leg they would probably have to amputate it. He has little circulation in his legs. He really needs more by-pass surgery but they won't do anymore on him because his heart will not hold out during the surgery. It is so hard to watch ones parents withering away in front of you. Coming back to my place was hard.I know i will probably not get those last few precious moments with my father. I live 3 1/2 hrs. away from him. I watched my Dad wen we'd go to see Mom.In 67 yrs of marriage they have never been separated for this long.First thing Dad does is give his bed buddy a kiss ( as he would say it )Then dad just sits and stairs at her for about the first 15 minutes just smiling.They can be so cute at times. Married for 67 yrs. and you can still see the love in their eyes for each other. What ever happened to good old fashioned marriages? where a couple got married and stayed faithful to each other for the rest of their natural lives. Marriage has become such a sad affair anymore. Most couples are lucky if they make it to their 10th anniversary. I know it's not just the men that cheat. Women are just as guilty as men for going else where. In the past year I think I have changed my mind completly about getting married again. I don't think I really want to do it anymore. It would be cheaper to go to the courthouse and file papers to change my last name back to my maiden name than to go through a marriage again. Marriage licenses and wedding rings don't mean much these days.I guess the word that no one takes serious is commitment. Wedding rings used to be a symbol of two people commiting there themselves to one another for life. What do they mean today? They slide off as easy as they slide on. You can sign a divorce decree as easy as you signed your marriage license.Am I crazy for wanting what my parents have . I know their are no gaurentees of having a long lasting relationship. But why don't people try harder to make it work? March 29thk Mom is home and doing good. Still has cast on but is walking on ti now. Looks like i won't be going back for awhile.

 

 June 12th,

   Mom has been doing great. Cast off and walking fine. Hopefully she will continue to use her Walker for better support. Mom turned 83 in March, Dad just turned 83 last week. Next month they will be celebrating their 63ed anniversary on July 21st. I think I migh have had the yrs. wrong in a previous post.

 

 

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