I must begin with saying, I love Fubar. I feel like it has opened a door for me to become so much closer to someone I love so very dearly and thought I had lost years ago. I can't imagine that we would be as close as we are now, in the place that we are relationshipwise without this and other "chat venues" that we have utilized over the past few months. Our love has grown and our situation has evolved into a beautiful experience that I am loving every minute of.
But as awesome a tool as Fubar has been to bringing someone back into my life that I thought I would never see again, it has also brought with it "evil" (as I cant think of any other way to describe it).
I am convinced that the "internet" in general (myspace, yahoo, facebook, fubar, classmates, {enter other social networking site here}, etc.) brings out the worst in people. I have seen people come here and show their "true colors" when it comes to being manipulative, coniving, disrespectful, hateful and ultimately hurtful to people that they don't even know. I am a studier of Psychology and I have yet to figure out why people do the things they do online. Some of it is truly an extension of how they behave offline but sometimes its merely in this venue that they behave in such a way.
Recently, I have had the unfortunate experience of dealing with what I would term is a vindictive and manipulative woman. I am guessing she thinks that my partner, is not onto her "agenda" but the both of us are not amused with the game she is playing. The saddest thing is, my partner and I believe in honesty above all else. We are honest with one another and straight forward and honest with other people- friends and acquaintances alike. It is sad for us both when we find we trust people who just can not be trusted. The thin veil of the internet seems to allow people to try to be something that they "create" for themselves to be, in thinking that no one will ever be any wiser to their true intentions. We are both perplexed at why someone would intentionally try to hurt either one of us, specifically when my partner considered this person a confidant; someone who understood some of the things he is going through. Shame on her for being so dishonest with her intentions.
Games and lies and Agendas will only get you so far (be it here or in real life). And honestly, very rarely does anyone ever get what they want and actually manage to keep it by being deceitful and manipulative. One person who could absolutely vouch for this; has yet to have learned her lesson and it seems she is joined by another of her species that seems to think that she is going to get what she wants by playing this same game. For me, it seems like such a waste of time to plan and scheme and manipulate in this way when you could just be upfront with what it is you want. You might actually stand a better chance of getting it. Not in this case... but with someone else. Good Luck in your search hun; hopefully my sentiments about your behavior can guide you to enlightenment.
