Joshua's blog: "Fubar: Land of the Lost"

To sit in a room full of people one would think the world was full of elephants. Finesse is often disregarded as invaluable and pointless because it it does not provide immediate and substantial results. People have weak sensibilities and strong sensitivities. Boom boom we stomp about trying to get noticed. Boom boom we trounce the weak beneath us in order to feel large and powerful. Boom boom we convince ourselves that we are valuable because we can make a lot of noise in the world around us. After all, if you are not heard you do not exist, right? If we spend all of our time smashing everything below us to bits how are we ever going to rise above our current positions. If we don't begin to support one another and help each other to climb to greater heights we are doomed to remain rooted on the ground waiting for a bigger behemoth to crush us under its weight. There are better ways to leave an impact on the world than stomping our feet. If we want to improve our situation we have to stop smashing each other and oppressing each other. If we wish to improve we have to start taking responsibility for the actions we take and make proper decisions. We must become productive instead of destructive. It goes further than this though... We have to start holding each other accountable for the impact they leave on others. How will we ever improve upon our places in the world if we don't start saying... "Hey. Leave the little guy alone. One day that could be you getting squashed."

Do nice guys really finish last? Do nice guys ever actually win? Are girls more attracted to mean guys? Do girls find bad guys better? I don't beat women, why am I single? ~Gag~ ~Wretch~ ~Vomit~ So the MuMMs are full of individuals of the male persuasion who seem to think that they are nice guys which have been treated unfairly because women have chosen to select other men who they believe to be not as good as themselves. I find this extremely distasteful. Analysis: Labeling yourself as nice isn't really nice. Labeling others as malevolent is also not nice. Whining isn't a sign of confidence. Women like confidence. Women don't like whining. Women might very well choose a man who is confident who turns out to be abusive later. Women will avoid a whiner. Most people are relatively similar. A self proclaimed nice guy is usually just a normal guy who is unsuccessful with women. Women know this. Conclusion: When you go around whining about how you can't get women or that women seem to choose assholes this is often because you yourself are either unsuccessful in attracting what you consider to be ideal mates or you have encountered a female who liked to tell you how bad her boyfriend was so you would caudal her and make her feel special only to return home to her boyfriend every time. You are quite often the cause of your own suffering. Women aren't typically attracted to a a lack of confidence. You are driving them away. Stop being so self conscious. Stop projecting your unsuccessful condition outward for all to see. Nice guys don't always finish last. Guys who aren't good enough to place any higher in the rankings do though. Girls aren't attracted to mean guys. They are attracted to confident guys. You build your own barriers in life. There are countless people out there who have horrible awful circumstances thrust upon them which find a way to succeed and even thrive in it. Being a nice guy isn't the end all to being a successful mate. Claiming to be one won't magically snare a mate for you.

Directly upon returning to the MuMMs I became what some refer to as a lurker. I scanned through the interactions and comments. I read the content of the actual MuMM entries and what the people who posted them were saying. It is my belief that there are many things which we communicate with our words other than the things we actually say. The first thing I noticed is how painfully obvious it is that people who frequent the MuMMS aren't skilled at communicating. This is not to say that a person does not possess a good vocabulary or is well spoken. I am speaking of the inability of a vast group of individuals to make their message coherent in the capacity that they intend it. How can we hope to gain anything from interaction in which we don't have enough focus to deliver our messages with any deliberation? The common case within the MuMMs is to spew forth a jumble of words which are, despite a spell checker being built in, quite often spelled so improperly that a person has to guess at what it is intended to be and this isn't even commenting on the fragmented and incomplete state of the context. The first thing the average individual does when a person presents something of this nature is to assume that the person is incapable of delivering a worthwhile conversation. This is the cause of much acidic commenting which has a tendency of escalating to the point of bad relations. The point that I would like to express first is that when we communicate poorly what we mean, we are often communicating that we can't communicate first and that we are incompetent in at least one way. Do we really intend to start an interaction by giving people a negative judgment about ourselves? I find this doubtful. What else do we say when we say the things that we say? The nature of your context is often very telling. If you speak about fidelity, the development of love, or perhaps the nature of flirting; you haven't just shown us your interest in this topic. You are telling people that you are a romantic. You have given these things value and show that you are looking for others who also value it. Which brings me to another point.... Why is a person so often compelled to hide their ambition? Is it fear that you will be ridiculed by others? There are of course those that present their thoughts openly, though they quite often find it necessary to accompany this with a ward against negative comments. If you don't care about spite and disagreement with your ideals, why find it necessary to attempt to prevent comments of this nature? People are communal animals. We seek approval from those we find valuable. If we did not find others valuable we wouldn't seek interaction with them. So why seek to tell others we don't value them? If they weren't there would you remain? Unlikely. They are why you have come to that place. Do not deny it to others. It is silly to do so. They are there for the same reasons and though many of them won't admit it they too know just as you do why they have gathered there. I think the MuMMs are a colossal success. A place where individuals have a formatted method for them to interact without openly belying their intention to interact. They can present themselves to others for approval or disapproval and have the opportunity to defend themselves in the case that they are not accepted. It is a place of conflict. In places of conflict progress is in truth the only option. You can be hurt but pain has the ability to teach you. It is a system FOR progress.

My wanderings in life have been many and widespread. I think myself an experienced individual who only rarely comes upon things which I find daunting. Recently I made a return to Fubar, though the last time I was here it was called Lost Cherry. Upon returning I immediately submerged myself back into the mumms. It is here that I find myself most capable of learning things. I have made this blog to share what I have learned recently. There will be no references made directly in regards to any specific individual. The lessons I take away are altogether larger than the motivations of one person. Though you may read this at your leisure and formulate your own opinions upon what I have said, it is not my intention to stir up conflict with this listing. However, conflict is in my eyes the greatest stimulant of chaos and I do encourage it, so long as it is done with the courage and introspection necessary to present a thought both worthy and capable of being measured.