I haven't been on fubar long, just a few days as a matter of fact, but wanting to get points I have been jumping right on in their and trying to do ratings on people I run across. Therein lies the problem.
I'm an honest person, most thing WAY too much so, as a matter of fact. My wife says that I am honest to the point and being cruel and sometimes passing that point completely. But I don't believe in little white lies and I don't believe in calling a pig's ear a silk purse....things are what they are and you might as well accept that fact. There is where the problem is.
I have looked all around fubar, rating people and just looking at profiles....mainly of women, since I have no interest in men for either friends nor other distractions in life. What I find disturbs me about as bad as MySpace disturbs me, just in a more adult fashion.
To date, I just haven't really found many women on here that are all that attractive and the ones that are, are so stuck on themselves that what beauty there might be on the surface is completely washed away in their self-love. Then again, there seem to be quite a few of the plain and somewhat less attractive ones that have somehow bought into the ratings they get from guys. I hate to break it to them, but the guys on here will generally give you a "10" if you have boobs and something of a heartbeat!!
Now I'm not saying I'm a prize to look at in any fashion. I know that I may be attractive to some and just plain ugly to others. I'm just me and claim no delusions of grandeur as to my looks. But at least I recognize that about myself and don't go around plastering crap on my page about how utterly magnificent and sexy I am like I see a LOT of people doing......quite frankly, it's somewhat sickening.
Now I agree that it's important to have self-esteem and a favorable self-image.....don't get me wrong. But there is a difference in that and what I've seen on here. The bar atmosphere of the site seems right in line, because most of the people on here seem to either see others through "beer goggles", or see themselves through the great "beer mirror".....reality doesn't seem to come into play much in either case.
Of course, I could be somewhat wrong in this assessment. After all, I have always heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.....even if the beholder may have 20/500 vision with corrective lenses. My idea of beauty may be slightly skewed from the average person on here....or they could be passing out "10's" like beads at Mardi Gra for anyone who flashes just a tad of breast in their directions - which would actually seem more like the guy thing to do.
Either way, I'll just keeping looking around fubar for the woman that has decent looks, seems intelligent with a good sense of humor (about herself and the world) and has that proper ratio of humility and sensuality. I might actually find her if I try hard enough. Then again, I don't really need another woman in my life....I have a wonderful wife and a wonderful lover who both provide me with everything a guy could want......but it's still fun to look around all the same.
I think that a good New Year's resolution for some on here would be to find some of the humility that I spoke of. To not think that they are all that a bag of chips for EVERY guy that swings their way.....same can be said of the guys as well. And SOME should possibly think about making a rehab site like fubar to see if they can't put down the beer goggles and fight a REALLY good optometrist in their area.
