So here it is. Divorce. We had out fair share of issues but nothing we couln't ever work through. But something we can't work through is him falling in love again with his exwife. yeah. harsh huh? the story goes as this: she his ex went to a year long treatment facicilty for being hooked on ice in maui. while in there he met another woman. moved to washington state in 95/ divorced his ex in 97. got together with me in june of 2000. we married in july 2001. he gained custody of his two sons in february 2002. this past xmas they went for their last visitaion with her and she refused to send the4m back and he had to fly to maui to get the youngest which is 15. he brought him home the weekend of martin luther king weekend. i felt a vibe that was "off". so i questioned him and he told me that he missed hawaii and that was it. we got papers in the mail that the ex had filed for custody and he needed to appear in court feb 11th. so he made arragements to fly down there yet again to "squash it it. he left here 2/9/09 and was to return 2/14/09 but called me 2/12 and said he was staying until the 17th. then i didn't hear from him for almost three days. finally on the 15th, he called me to tell me over the phone that he has not been staying with his family in maui but actually staying with his exwife and fell in love with her! WOW. i didn't see this one coming. So i went thru the denial. i went thru the hurt. and now am mad. mad because he says he has always loved her. well if that is the case then why marry me? why not go back to hawaii long ago?? we have not filed divorced papers yet. and he plans to move back to hawaii as soon as we file.
everyone keeps telling me that everything happens for a reason. guees so. i put up with his alcoholism for six years all the while he was verbally abusive, and physically abusive and i kept loving him because he had always had it bad in his life nad i wanted to show him he deserved being loved no matter what. and this is my payback? so like the title, life as i know it...free again.
Was i wrong to put up with it for so long? or did i do the right thing by sticking it out for better or worse?
if someone had any good ideas feel free to let me know....
