RickawayJE's blog: "From me."

All too often you'll see people use the word "forever" in conjunction with their "love" or something similar. Now forever is a nice notion don't get me wrong, but how many people truly understand that concept of time. To some people forever is the rest of their lives, Others forever is till tomorrow. It's sad sometimes that we put so much stock into what people say that we have to have the reassurance of "forever" to fully believe that they're always going to be there. I wont lie and say that i've never used forever in conjunction with expressing my love. But in many ways i mean it. to me, If i say "I love you" I mean it. and while i might not always be IN love with you, some part of me, will, still, always love that person. 

I've seen and heard the illustration of a wedding, now i may be messing this up a little bit its been years. But at this wedding the bride and groom are up front holding hands, reciting their vows. When the priest gets the the part about loving and cherishing long as you both shall live etc, one after another other women kept coming up to stand next to the groom. The bride, of course getting, distressed asked who they were. To which the groom said "These are the women I have already given my heart to, but I swear, what is left is yours." 

Now, we tend to give our "love" to anyone that can speak a sweet word and make us feel like we're the only person on earth. I also don't believe there's any "ONE" person out there for someone. To me there's just the best choice. who makes us consistently happy, who puts us above everyone else, so on and so forth. 

If you're having issue, deciding if who you're with is what you really want, or making a choice for who you really want... a good, decent way to simplify it is this. Get a couplea sheets of paper. write down on one everything you look for and WANT in a mate, someone you can spend your "forever" with. Do your best to clear your mind of bias in writing it towards whomever you currently are with. Now, on the second, third, fourth so on sheets of paper, make two columns. Pros and cons, or good and bad whatever you prefer. Start with the bad based on everything you know of the individual. Write down everything "bad" first and assign a number to it. 1-5 or 1-10 is easiest. Tally up the bad, then switch to the good column and do the same. If the totals are... within a few numbers of each other...maybe keep him around, but keep the sheet to add to it later, or detract as you see fit. Do that with everyone you currently want. If the bad by far outweighs the good, then get rid of him out right. Lastly, compare what you look for, to what you know about each individual. Dont matter if he's a "good" person or not. If it dont mesh with what you need... then get rid of him. 

As opposed to my prior illustration, i don't believe the heart is set in size to where youc an dole out peices and eventually run out... I believe its an ever expanding...entity. like a balloon that wont pop. as it gets full it gets bigger and bigger... tehres always room for more love. I don't believe a broken heart breaks your heart so much as it deflates it. and it takes it a while to get you back to the point you were prior... Theres always more love we humans always have teh capacity to love more, IF we let ourselves.