Do you ever think that most of us expect nothing from someone we are interested in when we first get together in a relationship with that person but then expect too much later on in the relationship, leading to arguments and fights?
I think we expect them to act and be a certain way and when they arent it angers us for not being what we want them to be. We strive to be with someone that is non changing, or changing in the way to our own version of perfect and we take our anger/frustration out on those non intended, causing them confusion and hurt feelings. Women would understand this concept more then men Im sure but I think in our own ways we each understand it.
In all I think this is ONE reason for the break down of relationships and fights between couples over "nothing". Of course each side thinks they have their own reasons and explanations for the argument, as well as tryin to find someone to blame when there really isnt anyone at fault.
I was recently told that I got mad over the stupidiest things and for "no reason at all" way too much and when I think on it Im not even sure what it was now that I mighta been mad about, which means that in all they were right.. it was nothing. Nothing that is cept hurt feelings causing unfixable damage to those involved later on. ive tried to tell otehrs, and myself, that if its not something thats gonna matter on down the line then why get mad but its easier to say that then live on it when it comes down to it.
