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Sure – the day may be all about the bride and her big dress, but the mother of the bride dresses–need to be shined too.  Here is something you need to know to ensure your wedding stylish and perfectly coiffed on the big day.

Getting Started

When it comes to selecting wedding day attire, the bride goes first.  The moms need to start shopping as early as possible – but not until after the bride has selected her gown, custom bridesmaid dresses and custom flower girl dress. Once these have been done, the bride will discuss her preferences of lengths, colors and styles with her mother or both mothers.  If you’re not happy with the style she suggests, let her know and work out a compromise. 

Here is your guide to selecting mother of the bride dresses and mother of the groom dresses:

Etiquette

Typically the mother-of-the-bride (MOB) selects her dress (taking cues from the bride), then politely consults with the mother-of-the-groom (MOG) as soon as possible to inform her of the style.  The MOG should then select an ensemble that complements – not matches - that of the MOB.  This custom is definitely not required, however.  If the MOB is lagging and the MOG is anxious to get shopping, she can definitely take the initiative and consult with the MOG or the bride.  Regardless – it’s important for everyone to be flexible and considerate. 

Style Tips for the Moms

Color
Everyone has their own preferences, and any color can really be worn if the bride and moms agree on it.  That said , most would advice against these hues:

White or Ivory – (don’t compete with the bride)
Black – (don’t appear as if in mourning)
Red – (don’t be too flashy)

You usually can’t go wrong with lavender, beige, silver, burgundy, blue and rose.

Formality
While you have more room to maneuver in color – the formality of your gown should match the formality of the rest of the wedding party and the event.  If it’s an evening wedding and the maids are in floor length ball gowns – it’s probably best to avoid a short hemline in a casual fabric – and vice versa. 

Where to Shop for Mother of the Bride Dresses and Mother of the Groom Dresses

Most department stores and many specialty boutiques feature custom wedding gowns that can also be worn again to another formal party.  Shop with a trusted friend or relative, one whose judgment you can trust to help you choose the style and color that is best for you. And last kindly tips, since it is autumn, you may need a stole or blouse to keep warm.