Do Men Seem Afraid To Approach You?
do you find that men just don't
start conversations with you, even after you
meet eyes and give them every possible hint?
And are you finding that instead of it being
easy to meet a great man, you don't even come
across any interesting men you'd consider?
Worst of all, you seem to find yourself
attracting all the WRONG MEN.
If you're waiting around for the right man to
find you, and you're spending your precious time
alone... then I want to show you exactly how to
quickly find, identify and attract the RIGHT MAN.
Stop spending your nights, weekends and trips
without any one to share them with.
To find a great single man, learn how to get the
conversation started that will draw him in and
capture his interest and attention... and to lay
the foundation for a great relationship (if you
decide you want one with him) from dates 1, 2 and
3 on... you need to check this out:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/MeetingTheOne/?cid=V7BZZZ&lid=1&ll=1
I want to show you a few useful tips to help
you meet a great single man and set the foundation
for a great relationship within the first date
or two.
If you're single and finding it harder than
it should be to meet a nice, single, normal guy
to spend time with and explore a relationship...
you're not alone.
One of the biggest struggles I hear women
dealing with today, especially when they're single
again a little later in life, is that there just
aren't any good single men out there.
I also hear all the time that men just don't
approach women, and that it's kind of annoying.
Interesting that both of these things could
be going on at the same time.
Which one is it for YOU?
Are there no good men out there?
Or are the good men just not APPROACHING YOU?
Let's explore what to do about each situation.
Here are a couple of emails I got recently from
women that spell out these situations clearly.
I'll answer them and show you what to do if
you're in the same situation as a single woman...
>>>>Email From A Reader
Hi Christian,
How does a woman become approachable? Men never
or rarely approach me, and so I'm not even able
to put the fantastic knowledge I've gained from
your ebook and CD programs to good use. I'd just
like a good start, where the guy approaches and
asks me out!
Thank you,
-A.T.
>>>>MY Response
I'm glad you've taken the time to learn from
my eBook and my programs.
But you're right... knowing what to DO isn't
worth much if you don't get to USE it.
Here are some real-world tips to help you get
that situation you want where a man approaches
you-
Tip #1: Understand What A Man Is Thinking
Here's the short version of what a man is
thinking when he sees a woman he's interested
in, or meets eyes with her and shares an
"enchanted" moment...
Thought 1: Wow, she's hot
Thought 2: How do I get her to notice me
Thought 3: Hmmm... I wonder if she's with a guy
or not
Thought 4: (If he doesn't think you're with a
guy) I'm going to look at her and see if she
notices me and responds
Thought 5) Yes! She noticed me... but nothing
happened and I feel nervous. I'm probably going
to have to go say something to her if I want to
actually meet her
Thought 6: Oh no. What do I say to her?
Thought 7: I can't think of anything to say to
her that doesn't seem stupid
Thought 8: Damn. She's not looking at me anymore.
Maybe I shouldn't go talk to her. It's probably
dumb to talk to a woman here and she'll be annoyed
This is the series of thoughts that goes
through the mind of ALL MEN when they see a woman
they want to talk to.
Here's what you need to learn and remember
from this...
Most men DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY'RE DOING when
it comes to meeting and approaching women.
There's no "guide book" to starting
conversations with women that most men have
read... and that most women would agree with
are good things to say to a man when you first
meet her.
And unfortunately, some of the men who are
more "practiced" at meeting and approaching women
aren't the kind of guys you'd really want to
talk to and get to know.
With all this, what's a girl to do?
Tip #2: Make It Look Easy And "Inviting" For A Man
To Approach You
This might sound obvious, but it's tougher
IN PRACTICE than it sounds for most women.
In most cases it's because you don't want to
"put yourself out there" much with a man you've
never talked to before.
Well... same goes for him.
There's one thing I wish I could do for you
as a single woman, wanting a man to simply come
and talk to you.
And that's to put you inside the body of a
man at that very moment when he sees a woman who
he's interested in and finds attractive.
If you knew what this feeling felt like where
a man suddenly has this nervous pit in his
stomach, his mouth goes dry, and he can't
think of a single thing to say that doesn't sound
stupid inside his own head... you'd know what
it was like.
I can't give you that experience.
But knowing this... what you can easily do
is create an open invitation for a man to come
and talk to you that makes him feel comfortable
and inspired to take the chance of walking over
to a strange woman he's never met and start a
conversation.
Here's how...
There's a kind of universal "shorthand" that
all men speak and respond to when they first see
a woman and are trying to figure out if she's
interested, if he should go talk to her, and what
to say and do.
Most of them have to do with the BODY LANGUAGE
that a man sees and, without knowing it, can just
tell you are single and a good woman for him to
approach and talk to.
Here's a list of specific things you can do
that will subtly tell a man that you are single
and available and potentially interested:
Quick Tip: Don't spend too much time talking to
other men who you aren't interested in.
You can talk to men, and it's a good idea to
talk to as many fun and interesting men as
possible so you're engaged and having fun. (this
helps attract fun and engaged men)
But if you're with a guyfriend and standing
with him and talking to him all night, then the
odds of another good guy talking to you are much
much lower.
A good guy doesn't want to "hit on" a woman
who has a boyfriend.
So make sure a man can't confuse you as a
woman who's "taken"
Quick Tip: Use the universal signal that let's
a man know you are "open for conversation" - SMILE
I can't say too much about how important it
is that you have a fun, engaging smile on your
face is you want a man to approach you.
Notice next time you're out somewhere how it's
only the single women who openly smile at single
men. (and perhaps for good reason)
Women who are in relationships do NOT do this.
If you're smiling a lot, either directly at
a man, or indirectly to the people you are talking
to, you are 3 to 4 times more likely to have a man
think you're single and "available" and approach
you.
Quick Tip: Hold eye contact until he turns away
Ok, this one is the most subtle, but says the
most to a man when you do it.
This is the way to invite a man to talk to
you without having to talk to him.
When you meet eyes with an attractive man who
you'd like to get to know... don't do what most
women do and quickly pull your eyes away.
You have the power to invite him to come and
talk to you without having to say a single word.
And you can let him know you are interested
enough to want to talk to him and would like
him to approach you if you do this one thing...
Simply HOLD EYE CONTACT for as long as it takes
for him to look away.
Do not look away first.
This sends a very strong signal to a man of
your interest, and makes him quickly feel like
you "approve" of him and that you're inviting
him into your space.
He'll feel confident and comfortable in coming
over to talk to you then... especially if you
SMILE while you're looking directly at him.
If you really want to dial the ATTRACTION
up in a fun and playful way... then when he
comes over to talk to you, say something like,
"Wow, I saw you staring at me over there
and I was wondering if you were some kind of
creepy stalker or something."
And do this with a little wry smile on your
face to let him know you're joking around with
him.
Men LOVE this kind of playful teasing and
humor... and it makes it very easy to get into
that fun and flirtatious conversation that makes
a man FEEL more than he ever would for a woman
who simple asked him what he did for a living.
So don't wait. Go out and try this.
And if you're looking for an in-depth guide
to show you exactly how to set up your first
date with a man, how to handle phone calls and
texts and emails so his interest for you keeps
building... and how to make sure you have a
great 2nd, 3rd, and 4th date... then you need to
check out this amazing resource HERE:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/MeetingTheOne/?cid=V7BZZZ&lid=2&ll=1
Here's another similar email, with an
interesting twist-
>>>>Email From A Reader
Why the hell is it always the burden for the
woman to know what to say and do? Why can't
the guys do a little of work and actually take
the time to learn about a woman or learn to see
what is good in her. Why does the woman have
to do all the "marketing" to get a man's
attention? I am beautiful, successful and one
of the nicest persons a man would ever want. If
he doesn't want to take the time to see me for
who I am, so be it. He is not good enough for
me.
>>>>My Response
I personally wish that more men would get
personally interested in learning about and
studying the area of "relationship dynamics."
I agree that the world would be a better
place (for men and women) if this was the case.
And knowing this, I would STRONGLY RECOMMEND
you look for a man who ALREADY has his own
personal interest in these things.
Yes, these kind of men are out there.
There are lots of them, whether you know them
or not right now.
And I'd recommend getting out to places
where you are likely to come across men like
this.
Places where you know people are interested
in LEARNING, GROWTH, and developing as people.
A few of these off the top of my head include:
-Personal Growth Seminars & Events
-Museums & Art Events
-"Spiritual Practices" & Classes - yoga, pilates,
martial arts, etc.
-Business Seminars
Get out there and use some of the tips I
shared above. You won't have to do all the
advertising. Just have fun.
Stop seeing how the world isn't what you want
it to be... and start seeking what you want.
Here's something I want you to think about...
You are more than welcome to wait around for
a man to do the work for you.
I'm simply here to help and empower women who
have decided that they'd like to take matters
into their own hands, learn things to improve
their own lives... and stop waiting around for
men to make things happen for them.
Here's the truth of the matter...
It's no one's "burden" to make the first move.
It's an OPPORTUNITY for both men and women
to learn about each other... and to have fun
learning and growing and COMMUNICATING in ways
that the other RESPONDS TO.
And everything else is just WASTED ENERGY
spent worrying about what's NOT WORKING.
You can spend your time focusing on WHY THINGS
AREN'T WORKING the way you want them to... and
try and change the world and everyone in it -
including MEN.
Or you can make what I think could be the
most important shift you could ever make in the
way you approach your life (and love) and start
to spend your time, attention, and energy on
thinking about and discovering WHAT WORKS with
passion and curiosity.
The choice is yours to make.
In the meantime, here's one simple piece of
advice...
Stop worrying about what's "fair", and start
creating the life you want.
I've got a message for you from the universe.
It's telling me to tell you that the world is
NOT FAIR.
In fact, it's completely 100% UNFAIR.
And that's a GREAT THING... because it means
you can have much much more of the love and
beauty in your life than you ever thought you
deserved.
But only if you open up to the way it wants to
come into your life.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say
that there's some FRUSTRATION going on for you.
And my intuition, just from reading your
email is that the worst of all possible things
is happening for you because of the frustration
you're feeling and carrying with you.
It's that when a man comes close to you, meets
you, or makes eye contact with you... he quickly
sees and senses in you something about this
frustration you're holding on to... and he
quickly feels like something is "off".
Translation - men are quickly deciding that,
even though they saw you and were instantly
attracted to you on a physical level, that the
signals you are sending off with your body language
are good indications that you would not be a good
potential partner.
In other words, if something is "off" from the
beginning, it's only a matter of time before
whatever the negative thing that's going on inside
you turns to challenge and trouble him.
If you don't believe me that we as humans make
these kind of instant judgments about the people
we see and meet... just remember the last time
you got a "creepy" vibe from some guy who was
looking at you.
When a woman feels tension, anxiety, and
frustration about men in general... whether or
not she means to, a man will sense this in her
and see it as the female equivalent of "creepy".
Don't let your intense desire to find a great
guy push the ones who you come across away before
you even get to know them.
I've put together 2 of what I believe are
perhaps the worlds best programs anywhere on how
a woman can quickly connect with a great guy,
and how to create that INTENSE level of ATTRACTION
inside a man that will drive your relationship
forward.
By the way... I'm talking about more than just
the plain old everyday Physical Attraction a man
can feel for any "pretty woman."
The first program is for a single woman who
wants to learn what it is exactly that a great
single guy will respond to in the first meeting,
and on the first several dates as things get
started.
If you're tired of having those short-lived
connections where you meet a guy who SEEMS great,
and you go out and hit it off (and maybe even
get physical)... but then he doesn't call back
and ask you out again, then it's time to get to
the source of what isn't working, and start doing
what will.
In my "Meeting The One" program, I'll show you
how to identify the right man for you, quickly get
this mans attention and interest, and create
amazing dates that will carry you both into the
kind of relationship that will keep you both
excited to simply be in each others presence.
In this amazing program, I also show you the
exact moment most women go wrong when they meet
a man they really like and start to connect with
them. (It has to do with the way a man starts to
feel and want a "real relationship" with you...
and what most women will never understand about
this)
I've written an in-depth letter explaining
exactly what this relationship-ending moment
is when, and how to avoid a man misunderstanding
you in this way.
Go here now to learn this, along with some
free tips and video clips from my Meeting The
One program:
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And if it's time that you finally learned
once and for all exactly how to magnetically
ATTRACT a man to you on a DEEP EMOTIONAL LEVEL,
so that he might even be the one trying to
convince you to want more with him, then I've
got good news here too.
And as luck would have it, I've put together
an entire CD/DVD program to help you do exactly
that - create an intense level of ATTRACTION
that will draw a man in and emotionally "connect"
him to you in a way that will carry your
relationship forward.
When a man FEELS an intense level of
ATTRACTION for you that goes way deeper than
the common Physical Attraction he can feel for
other women... he'll see you as VERY SPECIAL
and want to stay with you.
Go here now to see some video samples from
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and be on your way to experiencing a level of
attraction with a man you never knew possible.
And enjoy the lasting relationship and the
deep emotional connection that comes with a
man feeling this way about you.
It's all here:
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I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck
in life and love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
