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"My take on a relationship and the way things are inside the complex mind of a Human Being".
July 23, 2012 at 1:25pm
I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because she was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.Opinionatively speaking though, "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." One of the soul purpose's of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness. (IMPORTANT) When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and too program for eventual failure every relationship we enter. When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. Now don't get me wrong in saying that. Let me elaborate a little more. Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to have themselves refreshed on the fact that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys. So, before you try to change others, remember how hard it is to change yourself. Furthermore, What you call flaws are really just scars and wounds accumulated over a lifetime of lessons learned and milestones accomplished."It is inevitable that we all change and grow daily in some degree. We need to realize this and learn to adapt and overcome to it as well as therefore." "REMEMBER THOUGH-TO EACH HIS OWN." Your life may not be anything like there's at all. Although, it could be strikingly similar and yet still you must remember that we do not all react identically to certain same situations. "REMEMBER THOUGH-TO EACH HIS OWN." One of the greatest gifts you can give someone is the gift of attention. One of my biggest flaws stand here in my very next statement. I just realized it a few short moments ago while I was writing and I am now going to unearth this stubborn stump that is tripping me up every time I cross into it's path. I realized we do not all react identically to certain same situations. Even though we may be experiencing them at the very same time or as well as together at the same place doesn't mean that we will react equally alike to one another. Because, we are two different persons and each unique to his or her own existence and the way we perceive this moment to the one prior to or still to come in the next. Basically, what I am saying is "You see we mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways - the same ways we react and behave when we love someone. In some cases this may very well be. I am not saying that it is impossible. But, for most of us it is a different mental process, emotional experience, or physical feeling as well as, spiritual enlightenment. "
Well, I guess I should go ahead and wrap this all up with saying this and let you decide on whether or not you can learn from this as well. These are my random thought's learned by my lesson's of life. Few know this but, "You know our greatest joy and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others. We smile profusely and weep uncontrollably at the blessing's and losses that come with them. Just keep in mind and remember who you are and who they were when you first met. You know, the one you and your heart first fell for. Never change that or attempt too. It's just not good in any aspect or way because each and everything about the person you fell for makes them up as a whole. Just because you don't like one little thing doesn't mean you need to try and change it. It will on it's very own within all due time change simply because life is about change and it is without a shadow of a doubt inevitable to us all . We see this through every step we take in life and learn something new everyday. With our outlook and opinion's altered to new belief's and heightened senses towards our values and morals of life at that given time. Be happy and love yourself and share your completeness and love with your boyfriend or girlfriend, your fiance' or wife or husband. Share it with your best friend and lover. Become one together and never ever forget that LOVE is and always be the greatest gift given to mankind from now and until the end of time.
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