I hear this alot through talking with friends. Your single, you join a site such as fubar. You see someone that captures ur interests. You start leaving comments sometimes in a flirty sense. You begin to talk, and hit it off. You arrange to meet, fall in love etc..... Now the same comments you made before are becoming to be a problem. But the same comments you leave are being left by other people. Only difference is your being asked to not leave them in fear of causing drama or make others jealous.
Now I don't understand this at all. If your so afraid of what others will think, or you may risk losing a so called "friend" because they now know ur involved with this person then why hook up at all? Why not just live the life of flirting? So many of you just don't know how it feels to be kept a secret. If you thrive off of the attention of people hitting on you, then you shouldn't get involved with anyone.
Now I do understand that some people try and lay claim to their significant other. Such as by leaving picture comments that say basically that person is yours. That is just plain childish. But to leave a daily comment showing your feelings, letting the other person know your thinking about them suddenly becomes a problem. But at the same time other people are leaving suggestive comments that are ok. You should be happy you found someone to love, someone that isn't afraid to show their love for you. Someone that is proud to have you in their life.
Is it really more important to keep 20 people in your life that you can flirt with, that thinks your single, rather than to have great friends that will talk to you daily, play around and be happy for you? Any true friend will be happy for you and except you for who you are and who your with. If drama starts because of who your with from the people you use to flirt with, then they never were your true friends. They were just talking to you to hook up or getting something from. My suggestion to those of you who do this and treat the person your with like your dirty little secret is to stay single and not hook up on a site like this.
