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I've noticed many changes since I came back to FuBar after a long hiatus, some good and other not so good. One thing I've noticed is some people get blocked and then want to point fingers like a ten-year-old and "this person deletes comments and blocks people" as it's a magical mantra which excuses the person doing the pointing. Since this site is inteded for adults one would think as adults each of us woulld understand why someone might have their comments deleted from someone else's profile page, MUMM, or blog -- as I've seen it just isn't that simple.
The reason why some people can't understand why they get blocked boils down to a failure to accept that other people are deserving of simple common courtesy, and the minimum of respect needed for a, well, civil society to exist. Yet so often those who scream the most about how their freedom to say what they want was denied don't realize their freedom to express themselves stops where the next person's freedom of eexpression begins. This is why no matter how much fun someone might think it is to stand up in a packed theatre and scream "FIRE!" that person, if caught, will get arrested.
Similarly, if I walk into someone else's home, and start making vulgar inflammatory statements to them, their spouse, their children, disregarding any of their sensibilities or their right to not have me make such statements to or about them in their home, it would be no surprise to me if I got stomped, kicked out, and had the police called and a complaint filed against me. In short, I have no right to treat people that way. Similarly, those people do not have the right to come into my home and treat me in that fashion.
Oddly enough though, America does not have a very "Civil" society, just as other countries have their lacks as well (nobody is perfect, not me, not you, it simply doesn't happen). Too many Americans have the idea their "Freedom of Speech" means they can say anything they want, to whomever they want, whenever they want, with no repercussions -- and they are wrong. None of us has the right to incite a riot, none of us has the right incite a lynching, none of us has the right to drive another person to committ suicide, but many Americans feel they do have those rights, and there should be no repercussion for them.
Sadly, some of those who whine the most about their "rights" being infringed upon will howl the loudest if they are accorded the same treatment of disrespect and discourtesy they accord others. Whether it's a 45 year-old, a 25 year-old, a 35 year-old, male or female, acting and speaking like a wilfull child who just learned their first vulgarism is simply, pathetic. It isn't cute, it isn't funny, it isn't attractive. It is the kind of behavior which gives all of us a bad reputation in other countries, whether we are guilty of such behavior or not.
Do we have to agree with everything everyone else says or thinks? No. It is possible to disagree without making childishly vulgar comments, it's called a repsonse, not an epithet. It is also possible to go to the next page / MUMM / blog withoput saying anything. There are many choices of how to disagree which do not entail provocation of others.
The reason I mention this at all is because some people believe they are totally anonymous while "playing" on the internet and rthere is no way their actions could come back to haunt them, and sadly they are wrong. You never know when someone passing you on the street might recognize you from a photo, or no someone who can track your IP Address, or who works for a governmental agency. And yes, sites like FuBar do get monitored, by a lot of agencies.
So next time someone (who is supposedly an adult) is complaining about someone else being too thin-skinned and needing to go do whatever (because they got blocked by the person for being childishly vulgar), they might want to consider exactly what they're asking for sooner or later. I've seen people swallow their teeth for not closing their mouth when others got tired of the abuse and asked them politely to be quiet.
