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Initial Agreement of Service i, ________________________, with a free mind and an open heart; do request that _______________________ accept the submission of my will unto this Dominant and to take me into this Dominant's care and guidance, that we may work together in trust and mutual respect. The satisfaction of the Dominant's wants and desires, are understood to be consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to him. To that end, i offer, use of my time, talents, and abilities. Further, i ask, in sincere humility, that, as the Dominant, the care of my body be accepted for the fulfillment and enhancement of our sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. i ask to be guided in sexual and sensual behavior, in such a way as to further my growth as a person. i ask that extreme care be given to clean and safe involvments with regards to bodily contact regarding all manner of Sexually Transmitted Diseases and all forms hepatitus and other infection. Afore mentioned Dominant will insure proper safety precautions as suggested by leading health and lifestyle organizations will be employed. my body is given to the Dominant to use for my growth but that submission is granted voluntarily and does not extend rights for others to have intimate contact at all. Also this agreement does not grant third parties permission to casual or sensory contact without all parties agreeing to prenegotiated limits. i request of _______________________, as my Dominant, to use the power vested in this role; to mold and shape me; assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being. In return, i agree: To obey given commands to the best of my ability. But to also use and have honored, safe words and signals when the Dominant should be alerted of unexpected concern or discomfort or my need to slow down or stop with any given involvement. To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve, and limit my growth as a submissive. To maintain honest and open communication and be treated with nothing but the same. To strive to reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment. To inform clearly, of wants and perceived needs, recognizing, that the Dominant may choose to decide whether or how these shall be satisfied. To strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic expectations and goals. To work in this agreement become a happy and self-fulfilled individual. To work against negative aspects of my ego and my insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these aims. my granting of submission is done with the knowledge and agreement that nothing asked of me will demean me as a person, and will in no way diminish my own responsibilities toward making utmost use of my potential. In recognition of my family obligations, nothing will be required of me that will in any way damage or harm my children, or my family, nor interfere with the performance of my duties as mother. This includes honoring and protecting my privacy. my body is offered for growth and experience but it's image and visage do remain my own. As a parent, i cannot permit any video tape, film or digital photography to be permitted in any manner even with the strictest of controls. As my Dominant and primary caretaker you agree to insure this and protect me from this when i am unable to do so myself. In recognition of my employment obligations, nothing will be required of me that will in any way damage or hinder, nor interfere with the performance of my employment duties. As W/we enter into this agreement in good faith with good intent, i will not be asked to conceal any of the nature of our interactions from professionals including medical or mental health care professionals or any trusted Mentor i may choose to confide in. We agree i will be given audience on a regular basis with permission to speak freely at designated intervals, and those words to be regarded without judgement or penalty. This i, _______________________, do entreat, with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, and esteem in which it is given. Should either of us find that our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, or for any other reason wish to cancel, either may do so by written notification to the other, in keeping with the consensual nature of this agreement. W/we both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of our relationship as friends. Upon cancellation, each of us agrees to offer to the other his or her reasons and to assess our new needs and situation openly and lovingly. This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of our relationship, committed to in the spirit of caring and consensual dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health and happiness, and improving both our lives. This being our first exploration, we agree to work in the spirit of this document for the term of 30 days from the date of signature below. Renewal of such commitments should not be assumed without a new written document of this nature entered into during the last week of the original term of this agreement. i offer my consent to submission to ______________________________ under the terms stated above on this the ________ day of _____________ in the year ________. ____________________________ Signature of Submissive I offer my acceptance of submission by ______________________________ under the terms stated above on this the ________ day of ______________ in the year ________. ____________________________ Signature of Dominant