I am wondering how much of yourself do you give away when you forgive someone? Does relinquishing your anger and hurt for that person take away from the totality of yourself? Or rather, does the retention of such feelings erode away at the core of a person until they finally feel as if they have nothing left, because they have been angry for so long?
If I forgive people for "tresspasses against me" do I give up a peice of myself that I needed, or just something that was added that is much healthier for me NOT to have access to? What deserves finite atonement and what is impossible to rectify? Who makes that decision? The transgressor, the the victim, or a third party arbitrator? (If so, is there a number, I have cases pending)
Is it cool to forgive because it is the nice thing to do, or is it because it is the right thing to do? Much study is needed.
