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Clitoral Sensitivity, and Lubrication

You know where her clitoris is, so now what you ask? Well, first I must mention clitoral sensitivity and the possible need for additional lubrication. The sensitivity of the clitoris varies greatly from woman to woman. There are women who experience pain if their clitoris is touched directly, others do not find their clitoris sensitive to touch at all. Others may require a very light touch in the beginning but need a firmer touch the closer they are to reaching orgasm. It is best to start out with a very light touch then slowly increase the amount of pressure as you see her become more aroused. Watch her body movements and listen to the noises she makes to see if you are applying too much pressure or not enough. Be careful, you almost never want to squeeze the clitoris tightly, perhaps firmly, but almost never aggressively. A few women may enjoy a firm squeeze at the point of orgasm, but talk to her about this before actually trying it. She will either see stars, or smack you across the head. Ticklishness can be an indication of nervousness or too light of a touch; have her breath deeply and relax.

Depending on the sensitivity of your partner's clitoris and the amount of natural lubrication, you may need to apply additional lubrication before beginning the massage. Try it without at first, but if she pulls away or reports she is too sensitive, or feels nothing, apply a generous coating of lubrication to her entire vulva. Use water-based lubricants like K-Y Jelly. (Use of petroleum-based lubricants can result in infection.) You can also use the new silicone sexual lubricants; NOT the type used to lubricate cars etc. When you first try clitoral massage have additional lubrication on hand just in case. You will almost never want to touch her clitoral glans directly without your finger(s) being lubricated, but this may not be a part of the massage in any event.

You may also want to consider wearing latex or vinyl gloves. They will make your fingers very slick, which will come in handy if your partner's clitoris is extremely sensitive, or if you have rough skin on your fingers. They also come in handy if you insert your finger(s) into her vagina during the massage, fingernails can scratch the vaginal walls. Most pharmacies carry vinyl and latex gloves and are an inexpensive over the counter item.