A couple of semesters ago I had to take a class for my Major called "Choice Theory". Mind you that my idea about this class was less than to be desired but once the semester moved on I learned alot and opefully pass the idea around for other to think about.
Choice Theory is an idea (a very true and insiteful idea) that was written by William Glasser,M.D. A psychiatrist that has been known world wide.
In his book "Choice Theory" Dr. Glasser states; "for all practical purposes, we choose everything we do, including the misery we feel". Which means that all we can get from other people is the information that they give - it is how we act upon that information is what we choose.
What I am saying is if you don't like something about yourself then only you can make up your mind to change it. It can be done.
And if you are interested in reading this book then it is called "Choice Theory" by William Glasser M.D.
What I wrote here is only a portion of what the book is about, read it I'm sure that everyone can get something out of it.