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What do you think is a measure of a man...some can answer quick without a second thought and some will have to get back to you when asked but lately.... (Well more often than most) we go by what we see rather than what's on the inside...you can have a great guy as a friend or whatever and the only thing that stops you from taking it further is the fact he hasn't shown you his "dark side" and it bothers you cause in the back of you mind your thinking here is this guy who has shown me more love than anyone else, for my kids as well (those who have kids) and you wanna know if something goes down will he be a "man" and stick out his chest to show his strength or will he cower and run away showing his weakness
I have many friends who think the above of me cause they see me smile all the time, do nice things and never raise my voice so they assume that I'm some sort of softie who can't fight much less defend my lady's honor when she is disrespected changing the way they think about me...even though they'll fight with you and tell you it doesn't matter but ladies we know when your feelings for us change.... that whole Alpha male shit stops us from letting you know that we know that you don't see us the way you used to......just because I choose not to show my strength by flexing my muscles but by being a true gentleman makes me weak in their eyes........
For years my "manhood" has been questioned by those who only wanted to see me explode, put me in a certain group, cause no matter what they to try and see that part of me they never do, so to appease their egos they come up with any excuse to make themselves feel better so if calling me a soft helps you sleep easy at night then so be it while the people who know the person I am and just want me get more than they'll ever will I've had this out with my other side years ago and I learned that even it's a very powerful force......anger never gets you anything good and it took me a while to understand why I was angry and how it was killing me lil by lil not just me but those who I held dear. It was only when I saw what it was doing to me (this is for those who don't think I know what they been through) that I learned to let go and after I did things made more sense. The hardest thing to do that we don't do when were in that state of anger is LISTEN (not only to ourselves but others) cause were so all in a rage that nothing gets through until after the destruction is over which by that time it's too late and end up losing "everything" we ever wanted life, love, and to be "truly" happy
Just cause you don't want to know more about me by what you have seen doesn't make me any less of a man in fact the next time you consider someone weak and not worth your time take a look at you own life and tell me is it any better?
