Just about the time I think I have it figured out, something else changes. A few months ago my last kid moved out. I packed up her stuff and put it in the garage and drug in my stuff. Started setting up a guest/craft/computer room for myself. Didn't really get the room where I wanted it but had a good start on it. Thught I had all the time in the world to do it. Now she is moving home. I really liked living alone, little things were big adventures. Like not coming straight home from work, running around in PJ's all weekend if I wanted to. Cooking or not cooking.
Now I need to change the way the kid and I relate. She is not a little girl anymore and I am not mommy. This is weird.
Rules have to be set down right away. She will pay rent, utilities, food, and gas if I have to drive her around. She has to have a job. She will help with house work. And I get to use the computer and phone when I want to and for as long as I want to.
I need to let her be an adult. Oh that is going to be so darn hard. She hasn't been gone long enough for that to really sink in. I need to keep being me, not reverting to being the kid's mom and nothing else.
One more day of freedom.......
