Ninja's blog: "Ask the Ninja"

Dear Ninja,

When I first joined cherrytap, all I did was surf profiles, rating pictures in search of NSFW of women. I'm a single male. I do that. Occasionally, I see a profile of someone I could like IRL. So, photo comment here and there. send drink. Open up lines of communications. I've got a few women friends that way.
I have a system, friendship in fubar and if you pass my test, you actually get my YIM.
She actually made my YIM list.
Then I found the MUMMs and that is where most of my friendships come from.
Personally, I think the majority of men make it harder for the rest of us who AREN'T much of an asshole. (For all men are assholes - all women are crazy)
Anyways, I've lost contact with her for couple of years and just recently found her on YIM. if I haven't categorized it so, I might have forgotten who she was.
In our conversation she brought up the amount of female friends and I was compelled to explain myself. I'm not a male slut....well I'm reformed. The point is: I'm a single male who has a big list of female friends. Not all are interested in me romantically. I do not want to bed them all.
I just get along better with women, always have.
I just get tired of explaining myself...even though I claim to be a reformed male slut...am I lying to myself?

~Confused former slut

 

Dear Confused former slut,

Most men who are friends with a lot of women are either gay or they want to have sex with the majority of them. Most women can keep male friends that they don't want to have sex with, fewer men can. Surrounding themselves with women is a subconcious way to keep their options open and "take that friendship to the next level" and by that, I mean get some benefits. Now, there's not a damn thing wrong with a friend with benefits. All people have intimacy needs, and some of us choose to have ours filled with someone we trust and care about, just not enough to let spend the night, or cook breakfast for in the morning. I mean, come on, if he was really more than some good sex, we'd figure out a way to keep him around (and NO don't make up dumb pregnancy stories ladies, that's just psycho).

Back to your question, I'd like to know, after a few years, why she feels that she has any kind of territorial right to complain about whom you choose as friends. It's not like she cared enough to keep in contact. It's also not as if you two were in a real life relationship ruined by fuwhoredom. Women need to get over themselves sometimes. She made it clear in her lack of contact that she didn't care enough to be part of your life. You should return the favor and tell her to kiss your ass. The amount of ladies you choose as friends is your business. If she wasn't insecure, she wouldn't care. And if she cared, she wouldn't have waited 2 years to bitch about it.