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I come to this site to decrease my anxiety. Someone who asks me to read their profile and sends me a friend request that shows that they have manifestly not skimmed let alone read mine- I am not going to agonize over how best to explain to them why I am denying their request, or try to get past the manifold barriers they have put up in their profile (very few methods of contact available, few of them appropriate) to ask them to provide more information or enter into a conversation -- so that I can ease my mind that we'd get along as CTFriends, that I wouldn't mind their having access to my protected blogs.

(Some people actively want people to join their lists and are fairly exhibitionist, blog- and photo-wise, though their attitude to making lasting friends may be more ambiguous; I do lose track of people, which I need to work on, but I am not a the-more-the-merrier person, I think, when it comes to adding people to my trust-lists.)

No. Deny it is, with people who can't be bothered.

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Navajo Princess
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Fort Worth, TX
April 5, 2007 @ 11:33 pm
I agree with this Eric
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"1969"
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Cedar Falls, IA
March 12, 2007 @ 5:40 am
EXCELLENT POINT. SAME GOES FOR ME.
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New York's Peng...
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Ithaca, NY
March 10, 2007 @ 6:08 pm
I think the part about large numbers of friends was too much of a digression on my part. (This post is not a dig against people on my list with more CTfriends than I have ;) ) It's being sent a blank request when I asked otherwise, being asked to read a person's profile and not being given the courtesy of having mine at least skimmed (so that that request for a request that isn't blank- if I don't know you fairly well anyway... - is visible enough!!) my profile --
courtesy, respect, and that. I was confusing (and expect I'm being more confusing still, and ungracious- and I expect too that I overestimate the extent of our disagreement possibly!...)
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Nix the Vixen
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85044
March 10, 2007 @ 4:22 pm
I agree... quantity does not guarantee quality!
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Katie ~Member ...
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United States
March 10, 2007 @ 4:21 pm
I agree with you too. I think if someone is the more the merrier, then how can they be a friend? If they have so many, it's hard to be friends with all of them. I don't have that many, not really and I try to be a friend to all of them. And it's hard to do.
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catz
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Little Rock, AR
March 10, 2007 @ 4:11 pm
I agree 100% Eric!!!
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