There comes a time when being oblivious to things that are obvious is just lame, foolish and OUTRIGHT!!!! inexcusable!
Caring, true and loyal friends can serve well in the role of the "canary in the coal mine" pick up dangers that aren't easily detectable! If the canary strarts to give you indicators of problems, it is rather dumb to ignore them!
I am quite lucky to have 2 quality and loyal canaries right here- I just need to improve in listening to the warnings, reponding quicker to them and finally learn to do the right thing in responding to them!