Be-tray= 1-to help the enemy of(one's country, cause, etc.); be a traitor to b) to deliver or expose to an enemy traitorously, 2 TO BREAK FAITH WITH; FAIL TO MEET THE HOPES OF(she betrayed my trust in her), 3 to lead astray; DECEIVE, to SEDUCE then DESERT.
According to Webster's dictionary, that's what betrayal means. But nothing starts explaining the emotions that come with being betrayed, feeling used, taken advantge of, being made into a joke, being fooled, being lied to. Perhaps one of the worse (if not the worst) of human traits.
~ One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~
-Steven Deitz.
Betrayal takes away a vital trait that makes us a loving people.....and that's trust. You never again trust people the same way, even if you've never met them. The fact that the human animal is capable of deceving to achieve whatever personal goals they have in mind, kills any hope of ever engaging into meeting people, loving people, and making friends.
~ We have to distrust each other. It is our only defence against betrayal. ~
-Tenessee Williams
I was one of the school of "giving people a chance of opening themselves to you, trusting in you as well as asking for you trust". That was killed tonight. When you love someone, you expect that person to love you equaly, not to turn Her/his back on you. I've always been there for my friends, but it seems it is harder for them to be there when I need them.
~ Love is whatever you can still betray ... Betrayal can only happen if you love. ~
-John LeCarre.
If as John LeCarre says "betrayal can only happen if you love", then I rather not love anymore. If people have the need to have both in their lives, then they're not real human beings. No one can be that cruel as to deceive someone they love.....but then again......maybe there are people that are.
~ Each betrayal begins with trust. ~
-Phish
Trust= a firm belief or confidence in the honesty, integrity, reliability, justice, etc. of another person.
Of course, when you are betrayed, trust is compromised, the honesty and integrity of that person comes into question. It's hard to get people to trust you again once you have deceived someone, specialy someone you loved.
You withdraw from the world, you envelope yourself in a "Cocoon" of sorts, you tend to question people's intentions; even when they really honest, you keep distanced from everyone and grow a "second" set of eyes in the back of your head. The word "Friend" looses it's meaning, and "stranger" takes it's place.
“I'm like a lion - I roar. If someone betrays me, I won't be a victim. I don't sulk, I get angry. I go immediately into retaliation. But it always comes from insecurity or pain.”
-Lisa Marie Presley
However in the long run......the victim is vindicated only by the exposure of the deceiver, who will frame himself/herself as a character of ill repute, a "Judas", a backstabber, a traitor. In the eyes of everyone who the deceiver exposes himself/herself to, gives warning to others to be cautious; circumspect; wary. In the end losing the trust of everyone around him/her.
I gain however, an obligation to myself and those "True Friends" never to betray their trust, as I have experienced how much it really hurts, and the consequnce of betraying those you love is absolute solitude.
"I would never betray a friend to serve a cause. Never reject a friend to help an institution. Great nations may fall in ruin before I would sell a friend to save them."
-Edward Abbey.
"To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the approbation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty; To find the best in others; To give of one's self; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived - This is to have succeeded."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson.
