Being a baby's daddy and the holidays
Yes this is posted just after the main season for this, but it doesnt make this advice any less valuable. I hope you like it. I set this up as a mumm orginaly because I didn't notice the blog option. My fault, as a result I pissed off a lot of people online. If they ever stop to read this, I am sorry about that. I've had this account for a little while, but I am still a newbie. So here it is
Hey this is to all of the fathers of children with whom they have to share custody with. It's never easy, and during the holidays, it can be so much worse. Some of us have the mother of our kids, unwilling to bend or budge so you both can have the kids equally see both sides of the family. Sounds familiar huh? I used to get SO upset when my children's moms would tell me they were having them for Christmas, Easter, ect., and I could see them whenever they were through. So much for the holiday spirit eh? Not so. I had to remember WHO the important person was for these holidays. My kids. Why argue and fight with the mom, when you know the stress of it will take its toll on our kids? Even if you don't fight in front of them, they will sense it and it can still do damage. For those who are going through this, I can only tell you what I did to make this so much better. You know the saying age ain't nothing but a number? Well a holiday is not! It is the spirit that makes a holiday a holiday. You can have Christmas in July if you want to. I get my kids the weekend before Christmas and let my kids know Santa makes a special visit to dads when they are there so he visits them twice. We do the whole milk and cookies and they are so excited in the morning!! And you know what? That Christmas belongs to just you and your kids! How about that? It's actually even better than doing on the regular day. This can be done with any holiday, and even birthdays! I know you have had your kid's birthday party on a weekend when their day was during the week. I swear to you that it will relieve so much stress, make you look like the unselfish baby daddy, and sometimes gets you negotiation points for a later favor. Just don't try to boast about it because that isn't what it's about, remember? I know that mothers of my kids went through a lot to have my kids. They may treat us bad, but it doesn't make them any less deserving of a great holiday with the kids too. Besides, if doing this makes them and my kids happy, it will make me happy. Best wishes to you all. Don't forget if you're having an issue and need advice, just hit me up. I'll try to help.
