Karmic Kouple Whips N Chains Society's blog: "BDSM"

Dominant's Creed Author Unknown Above all else a Dom/me cherishes Their submissive, in the knowledge that the gift the submissive gives Them is the greatest gift of all. A Dom/me is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to Them, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift. A Dom/me is in control of Themselves first and foremost, so that They may control others. As a stern and demanding Dom/me, They can cause Their submissive to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, They will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character. In times of trouble, a Dom/me will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. A Dom/me is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. A Dom/me would never ask a submissive to put Them before their career, or family, just to satisfy Their own pleasure. To win a submissive's mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, a Dom/me knows They must first win their trust. A Dom/me will show Their submissive humour, kindness, and warmth. A Dom/me must always show them that Their guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of their attention, that this is a person they can learn from, and that they can trust Their direction. A Dom/me is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, They will fight for Their submissive's honour. A Dom/me proves to their submissive that They are someone they can lean on, and depend on. When it comes time to teach Their submissive their lessons of obedience, They are a strong and unyielding professor. A Dom/me will accept no flaw. Nothing less than perfection from Their student. Never does a Dom/me use discipline without a good reason. When They do punish Their submissive, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand. A Dom/me is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear Their submissive's wants and needs. A Dom/me is patient; taking time to learn Their submissive's limits, and knowing that as their trust of Them grows, so will they. A Dom/me never has to demand ritual behavior from Their submissive. Their submissive responds to Them out of the want of pleasing Them. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. A Dom/me understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to Them. A Dom/me is secure enough to laugh at Themselves and the absurdities of life. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. A Dom/me's tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love. A Dom/me understands that E/each partner gains most from pleasuring the O/other. And B/both of T/them know that love and trust are the only bindings that truly hold.

Daddy Doms A babygirl's view by Kendra I mentioned the term Daddy Dom in a chat room the other day and was greeted by a resounding Yuk! It got me thinking about the misconceptions surrounding this aspect of D/s. I realize most think that it involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true, Daddy/little girl is a much different level. I do not know if I can explain what I mean so I will simply talk about what a Daddy Dom is to me. First I should say that in my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman. He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals. So..what makes a Daddy Dom? First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. Seeing her hurt however is not something a Daddy Dom wants. He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her , but he knows it is sometimes necessary. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined. A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good. A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive..acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful. Many of you may be asking what separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom. In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.