I gave things a lot of thought over the past week.
I've decided that, for the future, instead of worrying about what I'm doing wrong in trying to be social, I'm going to flip the script a little bit.
See... I realize I've already blown it with some people on this site... a few of whom I liked a lot. Why? Because I spent all this time worrying about how I was going to get them to like me back, and not enough time stopping to think.
About what, you ask? (Well, I really don't care whether you ask or not.)
About whether or not these women measure up to my standards.
All along, I've been thinking, "What's wrong with me? Why am I not there yet? Ore ga, mada mada desu ka?" (Okay, I wasn't really thinking the last one.) I should have been thinking, "Wait a minute. Why am I worried about that? They should be living up to my standards."
So... here's the new plan.
If I'm going to get with you, you have to be worth my time, now, and not the other way around.
No more psychos. If you ever tried to kill yourself, are still shaken over your miscarriage, or currently have a stalker... keep it moving.
Don't expect me to kiss your ass. At least, not while we're not in bed. Outside of the sack, I'm not obligated to be anything you think I should be, except myself. I chose to spend my time with you.
For the love of Beyoncé, don't dress like a bum. That isn't to discourage you from being comfortable, but if stuff doesn't fit right and things are unattractively falling out, I'm turning the car around and driving away. You wouldn't put up with it with me, so why should I put up with it with you?
My schedule is weird. Deal with it. If you don't have time for me, what makes you think I'm going to have time for you? And, any time we do spend together had better be worth it..
I don't want to hear your life story on the first date. If you have something interesting going on, though, feel free to share. If you have a nice talent, I want to see that too - it might be hot. If you're going to tell me about the miscarriage in paragraph one, however, you fail hard.
Those are just some of the criteria I think you women should meet before I consider you worthy. Does it sound like I'm being cocky and pushy? Maybe, but the "nice" routine is boring and ineffective. You women don't want a nice guy. You want someone who doesn't need you. It's all about the challenge.
Are you up to it? Are you worth it?
