Whoa...
My daughter called me at work many times Sunday morning/afternoon, but I couldn't answer the phone because we were busy. As I got off work, I received another phone call from her. She asks, "Did you get my message???", to which I responded, "No. I was in the hotline room and couldn't answer my phone. What's up?"
"Well, hello, Grandma!!" Huh???
She proceeded to me that she had to go to the hospital on Saturday evening because of a severe migraine and they did a pregnancy test on her and confirmed that she was indeed pregnant.
She is 19. Her boyfriend is 24. They are good for one another in many ways; however, they are not wanting to get married. I told her that I would support them in whatever decision that they would want to do. After all, it was just a month ago that they had decided that they were going to live separately to test their love for one another, to give her a sense of independence prior committing to him in marriage, etc. I certainly don't believe in continuing a marriage just for the sake of the child(ren) because, to me, it is more important to bring them up in healthy, loving environments than to be in a stressed relationship in the mix of things. I would think it wrong for them to get married for the sake of the child -- especially, in light that they were already considering a separation period.
She asked me if I would help out with babysitting on a fulltime basis. I reminded her of our many conversations in the past that if, while having sex, she was able to conceive a child in spite of all the protection that was done. (After all, I should know that it is possible to have a child in that manner because she was conceived while I was on the pill and her Dad was using a condom.) To me, it is no question of my support for her....and, she has not questioned me of my support at all. She knows that I am there for her unconditionally.
They came over this afternoon to spend time with me, help me unload my truck of a folding table, file cabinet, and bicycle that I have recently acquired, go out to eat with me, and go to Target to get her some pre-natal vitamins and a book about being pregnant.
She admits that she doesn't feel ready for a child, but they have picked out a name. Kaelise. We had thought about Kaeli long time ago because it would be a blend of my own two names KAthryn and ELIzabeth. Her idea is to add the SE for her daughter's formal name, but to call her Kaeli. I like it, of course. :) Their deal though is to come up with a boy's name in the event it is a boy. She stated to me, "Mom, I hope that it is a girl because boys are so foreign to me."
I know what she means. After all, my own family is comprised of me with my two sisters and little brother and she is an only child.
I do know though, that she will be a good Mom and she is still determined to get her degree(s) that she is working on.
I so love my daughter...
and the new life within her.
:D
Grandma? Still not used to the sounds of that just yet, but I am sure everything will be just fine...although it is taking time for everything to sink in.
Kat
