Hmm...
So, as February closed, a certain someone told me in no uncertain terms that I should stop pursuing her affections.
So, I stopped. I ceased all contact with her.
She has been showing up in my "Who Viewed Me" tab every other day since then. Each time she shows up, she has her status message set to indicate how much she loves her new boyfriend, and most recently, has her primary pic set to a salute photo where she shouts him out.
At first, I thought about blocking her. Yeah, in the first day or two it stung looking at anything that had to do with her: blasts, the occasional Support Lounge visit, her just being online (she's still in my Family list; I can't be arsed to remove her). She could be rubbing it in my face, or she could be doing this completely innocently (*coughbullshitcough*).
Then, I realized... I'd be letting the terrorists win if I reacted at all.
People do silly things like "passive harassment" when they want to show they can still push buttons and make a difference when they don't, without the risk of actually facing the person. And yes, while it is true I still care for her, I also respect her and her new boyfriend enough just not to talk to her. I could be the "jilted lover," the "unbalanced stalker," the "power abusive jerk" (this is why I don't take anything personally on Fubar anymore; I don't need people saying "He marked all my pics NSFW and banned me from the Support Lounge because I wouldn't sleep with him!").
Instead, I'm taking the high road and wishing her and her new boy-toy good luck. They say there's someone out there for everyone; as much as I doubt that's true in my case, I at least can take solace in knowing that, if there is, she's probably a lot more self-confident and would never sink to thinking that an "I have a significant-other and you don't" tactic is effective.
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