Good men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the
streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can't see
because we don't know what a good man really looks like. He usually
isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not
wear a suit or push a lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with
a Denzel face. But as you mature, you realize it is better to find
somebody who's got your back rather than someone who turns your head.
A Good Black Man doesn't agree wholeheartly with everything you say. He
doesn't tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He
doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, yada yada
yada he is. He won't have to because it shows. He has his own
opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to
prove he is right.
He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are
willing to do the same. A good man is not going to meet every item
on your checklist, he is human with frailties and faults mixed in
with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and
respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to catch him doing
something wrong so you can declare aha!, I knew you were a dog!
A good man isn't insecure about his woman having great achievements.
In fact he is her number 1 supporter and becomes disappointed with
her when she begins to lose herself, for the sake of not hurting his
feelings, or just want to make him happy. His happiness comes with
seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as
she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right
along with her. A good man doesn't necessarily have to give a huge
birthday or valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are
comfortable to him and makes his woman feel loved.
Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living in a fairy
tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth
that our men are no good. It is just not true.
Black men, we salute you and we thank you for who you are
and all you've done. :)
